If someone told you they had a Christmas present for your child, but forgot to bring it the last time you got together, would you remind them to bring it this time?

Possibility a) you remind her and she has somehow lost or done something else with the present. She is annoyed and embarrassed and maybe has to go out and get and wrap a new present.

b) She remembers but you remind her anyway. She is annoyed at you for reminding her to do something she would do anyway.

c) She has forgotten and is grateful for the reminder. The only good scenario.

I’d say that there is a one-third chance this will end up well.

I wouldn’t say anything, but if you really want to, perhaps you could say something like “Hey, can you bring the (actual name of the gift)? I know (daughter’s name) will love it and be really excited to start using it.” or “I told (daughter’s name) about (the gift) and she can’t wait to get it, can you bring it this week?”.

No. No way. If she brings the present for your daughter, you know you can trust her to follow through. If not, just trust she is an overworked mom with three little ones and getting together with you is about all she can do.

Be patient and loving. And don’t try to score friendships though what you get in return.

I’d probably say nothing. It depends how close we are. I liked @Seaofclouds answer. It is one way.

What @zenvelo said.

If she didn’t bring it, I’d say, “Oh, you forgot (daughter’s) gift again.” See what her reaction is. Then laugh it off and suggest something silly, like making it a Valentine gift, or something about Santa being very tardy.

No.

I’d never ask for anything that another person should offer or give willingly. Doing so would make me seem greedy, demanding, and self-absorbed, and it would likely make the other individual feel uncomfortable and embarrassed.

No, please don’t ask her. She may have very well meant to have given your daughter a present, but then something happened. Maybe she broke it, maybe she felt obligated to give it to someone else at the last minute, or maybe she’s just chronically forgetful. Either way, if you remind her, you will embarrass her. And your kid probably doesn’t really need whatever it was anyway, even if she would have like it.

Unless this friend has a tendency to say things that she doesn’t mean, just let it go. If she does say a lot of things she has no intention of doing, either take every thing she says to you with a grain of salt and simply understand that that is how she is, or if it bothers you, then slowly, but surely ease out of the relationship.

I have a friend who collects all sorts of neat stuff. She frequents garage sales and estate sales and trades stuff with other like minded people. Often she will say, “I found this really cool fill in the blank that your brother/mother/aunt/you would like, I’ll give it to you next week.” Often weeks, or months or years will go by, and either she ultimately locates the item and actually gives it to me, or she forgets where she put it, and it never turns up. But since I know she’s like that, and it doesn’t involve wasting time or ruining plans, I just let it go. She’s one of my best friends and I know she’s a bit quirky and leads a very stressful life.

Do it @zenvelo‘s way.

If the child knows about the present, yes. If not, no.

If it’s yes. “Hey xxx, don’t forget xxx’s present. I know she’s looking forward to opening it”. Simple as that.

I agree with others – if your daughter knows about the present, say something because your daughter shouldn’t be disappointed by this woman. I wouldn’t be so forgiving of this women, if, in the end she didn’t follow through. I think people should keep their word unless there are exceptional circumstances and being a busy mom or breaking the present (buy a new one), doesn’t count.