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Are you obliged to tell your boss that you got arrested?

Asked by mike_br (36points) February 7th, 2013

Just came accross this site after not managing to get a useful answer on yahoo answers…If anyone knows this I’d really appreciate your feedback as I’m totally clueless about this..Few hours ago I had lunch with my girlfriend and she was supposed to drive back to her work but some time ago she called me…from jail?!?... telling me that she was stopped for some sort of traffic violation and that apparently her license is suspended without her knowing it and she says she’s been arrested and she has to stay there until tomorrow morning to see some sort of judge or magistrate and then she can post bail. That’s all I know and I’m just shell shocked, I mean she’s only been my gf for a month but she has a professional job working as a business analyst in a bank, graduated from a good university 3 years ago, I met her family, all respectable people, so I really didn’t expect this. Questions:

(1) What the heck do I tell her work cause she told me to call them and tell them she won’t be back in today or tomorrow morning (obviously…)? Will they be notified that she was arrested or can I make an excuse about her having had some health problem or something?
(2) If she posts bail tomorrow morning do they let her out immediately so she can make it to work later in the day or do they take her back to jail for processing her out, so should I tell work that she’ll miss the whole day tomorrow or only the morning?
(3) If I go to the jail today and bring some warm clothes is there any way to have them pass them on to her cause I remember she only had a skirt and no hose when we had lunch and it’s freezing out…
(4) Does it make sense to have to see a judge before posting bail for as little as a suspended or revoked (no longer sure which she said) license or is it maybe something more serious she didn’t tell me?

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Coloma's avatar

I can’t answer the rest of your questions but….good people can get into trouble sometimes, don’t judge her too harshly until you know all the facts.
Secondly, you tell her work she had a family emergency, and you don’t have to give a big explanation. Let her fill in the blanks when she can make her own phone call.
The rest you would have to ask an attorney or the police themselves that are holding her, as far as clothing delivery, bail time, appearing before a judge, and your girlfriend is the only one that knows the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

One thing at a time, contact her work and let the rest unfold as it will anyway.

Kayak8's avatar

I agree with @coloma BUT I cant imagine having your license suspended without your knowledge. ..that is the fishy part to me. Welcome to Fluther!

josie's avatar

Depends on the terms of your employment. Most small businesses don’t bring it up, but some businesses demand this as a term of employment. Read your employment contract. If there is none, or no mention of it, then the answer is no.

mike_br's avatar

@josie this is not about me but about my gf as mentioned…so i don’t know what her contract says.
@Coloma i never had to find a lwyer in my life so far but i think it takes a while to find one so not sure how that can help with my problem today. also if it’s like she says then should we really spend money on a lawyer for such a small crime?

Lightlyseared's avatar

If you ever find you’re self wondering if you need a lawyer then you probably do need a lawyer. Most practices dealing with criminal law will offer 24 hour service and it would be an idea for the girlfriend to have at least spoken to a lawyer before she ends up in front of the judge I would have thought.

zenvelo's avatar

Just tell her work she needs a personal day to take care of an emergency. By the time she goes to court and has bail set, accepted, and processed, it will take most of tomorrow.

She does NOT have to tell her employer,especially about a misdemeanor.

If she is overnight she is probably in am orange jumpsuit.

Can she afford a lawyer? If not she can get a public defender. If she can afford it, and doesn’t have one, she can bail out and look for one.

And once she is out, tell her she has to come clean with everything, so that you can help her.

josie's avatar

I run a business. If somebody does not show up or call me personally to tell me why they are not showing up, they are gone. Just like that.
Your girlfriend is taking a chance by having you be her surrogate.

josie's avatar

Do you mean her license was taken away on the spot? I can’t tell from your narrative, but if that is what you are saying, that probably means she was arrested for being drunk and driving a motor vehicle. Not good.

DrBill's avatar

where I am you are required to report CONVICTIONS, but not arrest, and then only if the crime relates to the type of work you do.

mike_br's avatar

@DrBill thanks, i figure that makes sense. i finally ended up calling one of her friends at work who then told her boss she won’t be in due to a family emergency. she can explain further to her boss herself.
@josie it was not exactly a lengthy conversation i had with her but from what she said it seems she was stopped for being above the speed limit or something like that and when they ran her thriugh the computer it turned out her license was suspended but she was not sure why. She doesn’t drink and drive, i’ve been with her a month and she’s always been very responsible, and definitely not the type who would get drunk at midday in her lunch break and then get to work. again she works in IT for a big bank for 3 years since graduating so not really a drug addict or drunk or anything like that. but i’m definitely glad you’re not her boss, you seem to pass judgement pretty quickly without knowing all the facts.

rojo's avatar

Stay out of it. This is a lose-lose situation.

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