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jrpowell's avatar

I usually make a list of possible solutions in my moleskin. Then I wait for a few hours and add more. That helps to add logical solutions instead of emotional ones. Then I pick the one that will hurt the least.

robmandu's avatar

I’ve found I use the rubber ducking approach.

Vincentt's avatar

Find the source of the problem and see what I can do about it :)

AstroChuck's avatar

Tequila. Rum helps, too.

buster's avatar

i ask my mom or dad for advice. they are smart and have lived longer so they sometimes have helpful insights.

Skyrail's avatar

Maths problems I solve with a pencil and some paper. I find it much easier to go through if I draw and/or write. For other problems I get frustrated. I’ve yet to find a proper way to solve them. Must try rubber ducking!

Notreallyhere's avatar

Be optimistic and stay calmed

cherryberry's avatar

Avoid them for as long as possible. Eventually the solution comes on its own

scamp's avatar

I usually just sit and think of all the solutions and their possible outcomes, then decide what to do. I ask friends if i am having trouble deciding what to do, but i ususally try to work things out on my own as much as I can.

playthebanjo's avatar

I like to sweep problems under the rug. This way they can procreate and become monsters. The world needs more monsters and anything I can do to make more of them is a service I am happy to provide.

jlm11f's avatar

I am like playthebanjo. I am all about denial. I am SO good at it, I seriously fool myself into believing that there is no problem. When it becomes too big to be denied, I discuss it with friends and family. Eventually though, I come up with my own decision, sometimes I get it right and the other times I don’t. But that’s life :)

marinelife's avatar

Despite many years of effort not to, my first response to problems that have emotional impact for me is to stress out.

Work problems or less sensitive issues, I just try to tackle logically.

thebeadholder's avatar

Tell everybody under the sun and then take the sum of all parts to figure out how to deal with it.

edmartin101's avatar

Hey Rubber ducking technique seems to be the way to go, just look at this:
Advantages of consulting a rubber duck:
• Rubber ducks never interrupt your flow of thinking.
• You don’t need to be worried if you are bothering the rubber duck with your problems.
• Rubber ducks don’t gossip about your private problems with other rubber ducks.
• Your trusted rubber duck is never busy and is always waiting for your inquiries.
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What a way to make some money selling rubber ducks, huh!! Is this what is called guerrilla marketing?

Miss_Lys's avatar

Sometimes i talk about it with family or someone close other times i dont i just keep it to myself. It depends on the problem situation.

wildflower's avatar

I consult my devil troll and large stuffed Tweety bird.
In the end I go with the option I can make the most convincing argument for.

shrubbery's avatar

Unfortunately I do not feel like I should tell anyone else, because I do not think that anyone else should be burdened with my problems when everyone has their own to worry about. This means I bottle everything up and eventually it gets too much. Unluckily for me my physical health is closely related to my mental health so when I’m down I get sick. At least then those who know me know that something is up and try to help me, and eventually things work out.

edmartin101's avatar

@shrubbery Hey I think you should try the rubber ducking approach. there are some clear advantages and you don’t have to bother anyone. You don’t have to buy one, just draw a nice one on a piece of paper, color it, put a smile on it and ready to listen to your problems

wildflower's avatar

edmartin is right. It does help to formulate your problem and options for resolution – even if you don’t share it with anyone.
I often find I build up almost a presentation around the problem – I may or may not give this presentation to a real person, but the problem becomes less overwhelming when you have it defined and outlined.

shrubbery's avatar

Hey you know what? I got given a little multi-coloured rubber duckie for my birthday which I forgot about as we don’t actually have a bath tub in our house. Oh and I’ve also got a little baby pirate rubber duckie that came in a tin of pirate bandaids… teehee, I’ll never get sick again! :P

wildflower's avatar

The pirate duckie is Perfect!!

edmartin101's avatar

@shrubbery you are one lucky dude!! you got all the tools you need to talk out your shortcomings, way to go!!

shrubbery's avatar

Haha thanks guys, I’ll make sure I give it a go :)

robmandu's avatar

@shrubbery… I want that! Pick it up at Walgreens or someplace?

shrubbery's avatar

Umm no well they were birthday presents, but ahh bought from a shop called Thumbprint in Hobart. I’m pretty sure there are no Walgreens in Australia.

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