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Can you be in love with two different persons at the same time?

Asked by Notreallyhere (728points) June 11th, 2008 from iPhone

Has it happened to you?

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scamp's avatar

Yes. If you could only love one person at a time, people would not have more than one child. As far as romantic situations go, I stay loyal to the one I am with.

b's avatar

Yes, and yes.

SuperMouse's avatar

Romantically? I don’t think so.

phoenyx's avatar

Yes, it’s called anime (or a love triangle).

scamp's avatar

I think you are referring to a manage a trois phoenyx .

phoenyx's avatar

If I remember correctly, ménage à trois implies that all three people are, um… involved with each other. A love triangle is where someone is in love with two different people who both love that person in return (and that central person is forced to choose between them, yada, yada, drama, drama).

(This kind of thing seems to show up a lot in Japanese comics)

scamp's avatar

I was going by the literal translation of the term. *[1] The French phrase literally translates as “household of three”. * I am not into anime, but I thought it was a type of animation.

TheHaight's avatar

Yes, reminds me of Carrie with Aidan & Mr. Big! ;) jk. I know thats fictional.

Its never happened to me and never will, I’m happy with my man.

b's avatar

Actually, the better definition is Polyamory. I know many people that have successfully lived this way, and are very happy.

phoenyx's avatar

Yeah, the anime remark was a jape. Anime more accurately described as an animation style, not a particular type of storytelling.

marinelife's avatar

If we are speaking of romantic love, which seems like the only possible context for the question, I think the answer is no. Neither of the feelings the individual has is truly love if the person has them for two different people. Infatuation, maybe. Lust, probably. Love? No.

MacBean's avatar

You can definitely be in love with two people at the same time, since I have been. This actually came up in a LiveJournal community I’m part of just recently, and this is what I had to say about it when people started asking questions:

I was with one person and I wasn’t going to cheat. And I loved them, dammit, even though I also loved the other person, so I wasn’t going to break up with them. I didn’t love either one any more or less than the other so I just stayed where I was and cursed myself loudly and often for not having the ability to magically control my emotions.

jenni's avatar

Yes you can be in love with 2 people! I think that there are aspects of there personality that you love ! they could be completely different but you just can’t live without them !

marinelife's avatar

@jenni Did you mean “their” there?

ninjaxmarc's avatar

yes and it can only bring misery.

Cardinal's avatar

Yes and yes and totally agree with the misery comment just above.

randomguy45's avatar

yes, i know because i’ve totally had this happen to me. it’s really frustrating especially when you’re in a relationship with someone already, but you also have feelings for someone else at the same time. morally, i dont see anything wrong with it, as long as you’re faithful to the one you’re involved with.

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