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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

NSFW- Would you assume this was a trap?

Asked by Imadethisupwithnoforethought (14654points) April 10th, 2013

If your girlfriend asked you out of the blue if you wanted to have a threesome with her and her most attractive friend, would you assume this was a legitimate offer or a ruse to get you to incriminate yourself as finding her friend attractive.

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Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Run Forrest Run!. Out of the blue would make me cautious.

marinelife's avatar

I would ask her some more about it,
Why did she want to have a threesome.
Was she worried about any possible ill effects on your relationship or her friendship.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I’d smile and say: “Dear, I’d do anything that would give you pleasure or make you happy.”

rojo's avatar

@LuckyGuy Way to go! lob that ball back into her court!

LuckyGuy's avatar

@rojo Yep. It’s all for her pleasure. ‘Cuz that’s the kind of nice guy you are.

A word of warning from Seinfeld…. You’d have to get new curtains and lighting.

rojo's avatar

CYA with a touch of class!

glacial's avatar

If she’s your girlfriend, shouldn’t you know her well enough to know what she means? And if you don’t, why don’t you just ask her?

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@glacial I lurve you normally, but you have too many x chromosomes to help us determine if this is a trap or not.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought I would think she’d want to discuss it a bunch before throwing out a suggestion like that. As a sexist rule, guys tend to be more impulsive. Women tend to think this type of stuff through more.

nikipedia's avatar

Why on earth would you date someone who played games like that with you?

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@nikipedia Don’t you measure guys and compare against your sexual satisfaction on a spreadsheet?

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Second thought. Maybe something has raised the question of how faithful you are in her mind, and she’s testing you. You responding to her positively could improve your relationship. Find out why she brought the subject up. Look beyond the question.
Or maybe she had some thoughts. I don’t know.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@Adirondack-wannabe Now you are thinking with me. Is this a trap to have me validate her insecurity, or is it really an arena for her to be bi in safety?

augustlan's avatar

All I can say is, it wouldn’t be a trap if I asked. ;)

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Yes, after I thought about it a bit that’s exactly what I came up with. But I’m surprised she had the friend chosen, unless A she knows you find her attractive, or B, they’ve discussed it.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@augustlan Are you bringing the whip? I’m in.

dontmindme's avatar

You should ask if your most attractive male friend can join the party. :)

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@dontmindme That’s an excellent idea. Just to expand the discussion why this comment came up. GA

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@dontmindme has this come up a lot in your relationships? It has not come up in mine but you do have a point

jordym84's avatar

Whether or not you should be worried about it being a trap depends entirely on your honest, initial, inner response. You know, your knee-jerk reaction, what you thought about answering before you came to your senses and considered the fact that she might be testing you. Know what I mean?

But I do like @dontmindme‘s clever suggestion haha.

ETpro's avatar

Well if my mate said that, I wouldn’t assume it was a trap, I would know fucking well it was. She’d be just as likely to want me to beat her in the face with a sizzling frying pan as have a threesome with another hot lady. So consider the source.

But I have to love @LuckyGuy’s elegant way to lob the ball back into her court.

Sunny2's avatar

Ask questions, questions, questions. What made you think of that? Are you wanting to have sex with her? (I don’t have to be there for that.) Are you teasing me? Have you done that before? Is she asking for this or did the two of you cook up this idea? etc.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

There are some questions that are dangerous to answer without obtaining clarification about the intended meaning.

LuckyGuy's avatar

”... and your butt looks great in those jeans.”

Arewethereyet's avatar

Sounds sus to me

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Arewethereyet I didn’t know Aussies get uptight about sex. Even your koalas sleep around.

ucme's avatar

No, i’d think that maybe after all there is a fucking god!!

tups's avatar

Maybe she just wants to fuck her friend?

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@tups That was another thought running around in my head. She really wants to try out her friend but she doesn’t want to feel like she’s cheating. More grounds for discussion.

Random1324's avatar

Ask her if she is joking. :|

livelaughlove21's avatar

HA! Oh boy, never answer a question like that.

Blackberry's avatar

Go for it. #YOLO lol.

bob_'s avatar

Go for it.

If it wasn’t a trap, sweet!

If it was a trap, get rid of that crazy bitch.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Is it something you WANT to do? Would you want to have a threesome with another guy?

livelaughlove21's avatar

@Dutchess_III Ha! I always tell my husband that we could have a threesome with another woman, but only after we have one with another guy. Call me crazy, but I don’t think we’ll be doing either.

poisonedantidote's avatar

Repeat after me “well babe, as a fantasy I think all guys like the idea of a threesome, but in reality if it came down to it, I would only really be interested in you.”

rojo's avatar

Yes, very good. Now practice it in the mirror until you can say it without giggling.

Arewethereyet's avatar

@adirondackwannabe the koala’s have chlamydia :)

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Arewethereyet I know. Have they found a control or treatment? Maybe little koala condoms? How are they supposed to have a koala threesome without protection?

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