Have you ever admitted to someone you love them so much you're vulnerable to them?

I have been so open about my love for my wife Sandra. We have an amazing relationship and I feel no risk at all in making myself vulnerable to her. I did this very early in our relationship and it has never given me cause to feel regret. We are together over 11 years.

There is someone in my life I feel that strongly about, but I fear that to tell the above would drive them away…and so I remain silent.

If you tell someone you love them, how can you not be vulnerable to them?

@janbb I think I know what @Adirondackwannabe means. If you are totally open with the other person and it turns out they don’t feel the same or feel love to the same extent they could use your admission against you. It could leave you vulnerable.

In saying that, yes, my husband knows how much I adore him. When we first got together I held off telling him I loved him because I had had my feelings abused in the past. He told me first. Now, I trust him completely and I feel able to tell him anything. Which brings about its own vulnerability. Can you love someone too much? Can you be too connected to someone? We both have our own lives but we are also incredibly open and close to each other.

Absolutely. I told my husband that it scared me, even, because he was the first person in my life I’d ever felt like I needed.

My wife knows, I told her.

I would also be falling apart if I’d ever have to accept losing my children. I didn’t tell them, they’re not at an age they’d understand. My wife and I discussed that, though.

Sometimes I read stories of people losing their families and being able to move on… I sincerely doubt that I could.

I did. He proceeded to mould me into his human doormat. It is going to take a while to shed that mistrust now.

My partner and I have never actually said it to one another because we just know both of us are. Neither of us have ever taken advantage of that, in a negative way. We have a pretty great relationship. Been together for 12 years now.

Not possible, I see that as huge weakness & i’d never expose myself to that extent with anyone.

Yeah.
My first wife.
Bad move.

My husband and I have bared ourselves that way to each other, Out relationship is stronger and more intimate because of it.

As @janbb says, if you feel it you are already that vulnerable so telling it does not make you more so.

I’m not a very lovey-dovey mushy-gushy bare-my-soul type of person, so probably not. I’ll tell my husband anything, but it wouldn’t even occur to me to tell him I’m “vulnerable to” him. Isn’t that kind of assumed when you’re in love with someone, anyways?

We’re just not that emotionally driven as a couple. The other day I helped him do something and, afterward, jokingly asked him what he’d do without me. He shrugged his shoulders dramatically and said (in his Southern accent), “die!” I found this romantic, if that tells you anything about our level of what most consider romance. No candlelit dinners with champagne, holding each other’s hand across the table while we eat, and telling each other how we couldn’t live without the other person for us!

No no no. No.

Our not out.

I don’t think I have ever loved someone that much.

Look, @Adirondackwannabe, I get how you feel and I know I’m irresistible, but I don’t want to know how vulnerable you are to me. :D

Okay, okay, seriously… I have told two people that, in my lifetime. One of them broke my heart and I’m married to the other one. There’s one other person about whom I’ve felt that way, but I never said anything.

In my last marriage I went a lot further than that! I told him I would never be happy with anyone else. I was wrong but I felt it strongly for years. But he was the most entertaining person I’ve ever known.

@WillWorkForChocolate but I know now. It’s okay, I love you too.

<facepalm> Apparently, I’ve got to work on toning down my charm…

:-| I feel a relationship question brewing. Apparently my love isn’t returned!

I’d facepalm to solidarity with @WillWorkForChocolate, but I just got done making Jalepeno Poppers and I’d probably burn my eyes out…what are we facepalming for anyway, Nina? Whatever, I got your back!

@WillWorkForChocolate How did you figure that out? I thought I hid it from you. :)

You’re just one of a group of jellies who constantly sends me embarrassingly sappy PMs, asking me to leave hy husband and run away to Ireland with you.

Well I tried to get you to run away to Lake Placid with me but you were afraid of the winters. What’s minus 30 degrees when you’re in love?

If you truly loved me, you wouldn’t want to watch me die of hypothermia. I’m afraid my Texas body is too accustomed to triple digit temperatures, and just couldn’t handle the cold! Sorry, man. Now… offer me a lavish lifestyle in Tahiti, and I might reconsider.

@WillWorkForChocolate Thanks, you don’t know how much that laugh was worth.:)

@Adirondackwannabe you are at the top of my list of special jellies.

I think any gal would be very lucky to have you feel that way about them.

I don’t personally think I’d like to feel responsible for someone else’s vulnerability, except of course my children, but I guess ultimately we put our faith in each other sometimes that honesty is reciprocated and other times it isn’t.

@Adirondackwannabe and everyone else.. I just want to remind you that I moved from New Zealand to Norway for what I thought was love… so, yeah… what is 30-C when you are in love?

Ooo @cazzie that sounds like an exciting adventure are you still there?

@Arewethereyet be prepared to redefine ‘exciting adventure’... and yes… I am. If you mean ‘Exciting Adventure’ a bit like Shackleton, then, yeah,... perhaps. I will let you know if I survive.

Good luck then hope it works out for you:) Shackleton had a rough ride hope yours is of the nice exciting rather than scary.

Yes. I’m so vulnerable. I love my partner more than I could ever tell him or show. Basically, if he said jump, I would say how high. I am completely his.