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[Details inside] Can you give me some advice for this sticky situation?

Asked by RandomGirl (3362points) April 14th, 2013

Sorry if this gets long.

There’s this guy who’s been coming to my church for about 3 years. I don’t know much about him (largely because no one will talk about him), but he gives me the heebie-jeebies.
Here’s what I actually know.

-He lives in a group home.
-He’s had problems with addiction and his anger in the past.
-He works in a “supported employment” program, PHASE.
-He doesn’t have a driver’s license and calls my dad once every week or two for a ride.
-No one in the church feels comfortable giving him rides (and they won’t tell me why). They’ve told my parents specifically not to give him a ride with my sister and me in the car.
-None of us know why (and if they know why, they won’t tell me), but none of the girls in the church are allowed to talk to him.
-He has personal space issues and is generally awkward.
-One day a few months ago, he came into the store where I work (on my day off). He asked several people about what I do for work, when I work, and even asked one gal if she knew where I lived. Obviously, no one gave him any information, but he did confirm that I still worked there. In the few months since, whenever he sees me, he asks if I’m still working there, and says he’s going to “come visit me”. <<internal cringe>> My coworkers say they’ve seen him in the store several times since then, but I haven’t.
-One day last summer, I was running an errand for my boss, and we happened to run into each other. I brushed him off very coldly, saying, “I’m very busy,” without slowing down or hardly looking at him. I didn’t look back to make sure it was him, but I’m fairly certain I heard his bike behind me for a few blocks.
-I cringe at the idea of drawing a conclusion on a person’s character from this, but it has to count for something: My heart starts pounding whenever he talks to me, especially if I’m on my own. Adrenaline kicks in and I go into fight-or-flight mode. I just have to get away! I’ve even hung out in the women’s bathroom to avoid him.

So here’s what I wanted to ask.
1) Am I justified in being so creeped out by him?
2) Last week, he found out my work hours. I have to work tomorrow, and he said he’d be “visiting” me. If your answer to my first question was yes, why? What kind of problems might he cause me? Would I be justified in asking my boss if I could work in the far corner of the store, where this guy would be less likely to see me? I definitely don’t want to be stuck alone with this guy.
3) I have a feeling people in my church know more about this guy than they have told me, and they would know if he’d be a problem for me at work. Should I just be more persistent in asking them about him?

Am I overreacting?

And yes, that did get long. Sorry about that! You so rock if you read through all that.

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