Care to tell about a time when you had to end it with someone?

This happened to me when I was in High School. I met the woman who was to be my wife and fell 100% for her. I broke off with the girl I had been dating. She was upset and said “Ron, you don’t know what you’re missing!”

Frankly, she was bossy and I was a little intimidated by her. For me it was a perfect time. I dropped a girlfriend that intimidating and found my soul mate. We’ve been together for the last 46, 47 years in July.

No…still hurts, for my kid’s sake, too much.

Just last week.

I met a woman on line in February. I like her a lot, and she really likes me, in fact she said she fell for me. Bu there were two big problems: she lied about her age on the on line profile (by 11 years) and she lives 100 miles away.

So while we get along well, it seems that since I don’t see her often enough we spend most of the time in bed. Now, I am not complaining about that, but we aren’t growing well together on getting to know each other better. But last weekend she was projecting on us going to her friend’s wedding together, planning vacations, and other things that seem early in a relationship.

Plus, the town she lives in is way out in the boring farmland, nothing going on near there.

So, last week I decided to stop it now before we get too far down the road. Monday was too crazy with the news out of Boston, but Tuesday I called her and told her between the distance and lack of time and my obligations with my kids, it isn’t working out.

She wrote me last Friday, to talk about things I raised, but overall it would take some type of really long term commitment (she said she would move!) and for me it is way too early in the relationship to make that kind of decision.

Plus the age thing bothers me. She is ready to retire, and I know I am working for the next ten years if possible.

I humped her sister
She found out
I got several blunt objects thrown at me
They mostly missed, but this one shoe smashed off my bonce
It hurt…a lot
I chose to run away
Relationship over…phew!

bonce?

head, it’s how we tark ower ere…pet.

Indubitably!

Very recently, I ended it with my boyfriend of a year and a half. That was a shitty experience.
I punched a wall. Did some crying. A lot of explaining. More crying. After a few days I felt better. It’s really weird seeing him, but I have to remind myself that this is what I want. What I need.
I miss his mom.

you swallowed a dictionary then?

Break ups are so much easier when there’s one big thing that’s a deal breaker. “Oh, you’re a racist? Get the fuck on, then.” Not even awkward!

When you’re just not that into him, it’s much harder. I usually went with, “This just isn’t working for me. I’m sorry.”

I like @augustlan‘s answer. “It isn’t working for me,” says it all.

More than once.

The way to do it is to say “There’s no easy way to say this, so I guess I’ll just say it”

Then say it. It is a whole lot better than bullshitting and beating around the bush. Plus it makes the point quickly, so the other person can get busy moving on.

There’s no easy way to say this @josie…..

…but this just isn’t working for me.

@augustlan @Dutchess_III

Can’t please everybody, I guess.

That’s what happens when you try to please too many people AT THE SAME TIME!