How do you get a guy to talk to you after you kissed?

What…the hell…is “scoring”?

News flash, hun. He wanted to get into your pants, not be your boyfriend. He’s onto the next girl by now.

Send him one text or one email, but be aware that if he doesn’t respond, all he wanted, as you so neatly said it, was more.

Yes, kissing a new boy on a Saturday night is fun, but that’s why one night stands are for older women, not girls. And most women (and men) I know are not set to emotionally handle the lack of communication the next day. Nothing wrong with kissing, but make sure your expectations are realistic.

@livelaughlove21 Maybe scoring like in hockey…tonsil hockey ;-}
I’d move on if I were you, as he most likely has.

Why would you want to be with him, you are nothing to him.

It’s too bad you didn’t talk to him or get to know him before you kissed him. Now you’re just some chick that he kissed, not someone that he knows. He’s probably kissed lots of girls and probably slept with some of them (I’m guessing that he was probably trying to get you to have sex with him too, and it sounds like that is all he was interested in).

I agree with @zenvelo that you might send one text and see if/how he responds. If you don’t hear back from him, then chalk this up to having this one bad experience and try not to repeat this particular type of experience with anyone again.

If he does respond, it completely depends upon what he says with regards to what you should do next.

If he doesn’t respond and you have to see him somewhere, like at school or another party or out and about, just try to be polite and cordial, don’t go all emotional on him, don’t try to find out why he ignored you, or you will make it much worse.

Then next time, have a game plan in mind before you ever get to the point where you are tempted to kiss and “score” with a guy. Your best bet is to get to know a fellow a little bit before you ever find yourself in a situation in which kissing is involved. Don’t let total strangers (or guys that you know, but don’t really know) kiss you or touch you in a sexual way.

And don’t let anyone (guys, girls, or your own friends) make you feel un-cool for not participating in the kissing and carrying on.

If for some reason you end up having a conversation with this guy (or anyone else who might bring it up for some reason, like someone who saw you kissing him) maybe you could say this, “I enjoyed kissing you Tom, but I shouldn’t have let it get out of hand. I shouldn’t have done that.” Then leave it at that.

The other thing that stinks about this whole situation is that it is still common in this day and age for a girl to get labeled as a slut, whereas the boy, who was participating in the same activity, gets labeled as a super-cool dude. Girls still have to be way more wary of what they do, and what they say.

For the future, have a game plan, a plan B, and a safe exit strategy : )

You’ll be constantly fighting the battle for your virtue. He has made it clear what he wants from you: not conversation, not spending time together, just sex.

Look for someone better.

Ah – beery breath kisses. I remember them well. Learn something for next time.

Why do you want a guy you have to chase around?

You sound young, so like most of the above said, kissing is sweet when it’s someone you care about or have known a long time. It’s basically step 2.

Sounds like you skipped step 1, which is getting to know a person first before swapping spit (which can carry diseases young lady!)

So next time, get to know a boy first. You learned a lesson already.

He wanted more, you didn’t.

You rejected him, then changed your mind and went back for more.

He was no longer interested.

This should make you less interested in him, not more.

Don’t become attracted to rejection. It carries a severe risk of emotional abuse.

If you want a boy to talk with you a lot after kissing, then first make sure he talks with you a lot before the kissing. If he doesn’t, he won’t.

@Girl97 I think it’s good he was honest with you and now you know what’s on his mind.
Unless that’s what you also want I’ll suggest to leave him alone.
“Lurk” around his FB without friending if you can, find out more about him. Maybe there isn’t much.
But if you like him and want to explore a physical relationship with him, you could tell him. I’m sure that would get his attention. And if the way he smiles when he answers makes you feel good think about it. Be careful, establish a safe word, cultivate respect and innocence and have fun, use protection if it gets that far.

If he’s a player he won’t have time for that, don’t waste your time with him.
There are plenty of horny nice guys who might just adore you and want a relationship but they are awkward and timid. Find one of them and make friends and let it develop on it’s own terms.

I forgot to mention that ive known him for about a year now , and we had been talking before on Facebook. He has chatted me a few times , things got pretty flirty he was indicating an interest for me

@Girl97 And what about now? After the kissing? It’s been almost a week – has he spoken to you yet?

Scoring meaning kissing! No he hasn’t , so I get the message ! Just as well, I don’t like him that much anymore cause of his childish antics . It’s just going to be awkward when I see him at a party again and I think he might be at this party tommorow !

@Girl97 Live and learn.

So scoring = kissing now. Wow, I thought I was hip to all the new slang, being 23 and all. I guess not…

In my day (heh!), “to score” was to have sex.

@livelaughlove21 Yeah, that’s been pretty standard since like, the middle ages.

Oh, I know. That was a bit of a tongue-in-cheek comment.

@livelaughlove21 If you kiss with your tongue in your cheek, you’re not doing it right. You want your tongue in the other person’s cheek!