If you were invited to a birthday party for twins (twin adults) but you only knew one of them, do you feel you should bring gifts for both of them?
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May 22nd, 2013
I am invited to a birthday party for twins, brother and sister, who are turning 21. I am friendly with the woman, who is the niece of my good friend. I have never met the brother, or if I did, perhaps at another event, I don’t remember him.
I was planning to buy gifts for each of them, brother and sister.
Another of my friends who is invited to the same party told me she is only buying a gift for the sister, as she does not know the brother, and she feels the brother will have his friends there giving him gifts. She said she does not feel obligated to bring a gift for him, only for the sister.
I already asked the party hostess, my friend, what kind of things the brother likes.
Can you help me decide which is appropriate? To bring a gift for both brother and sister, even though I only know sister, or to only bring a gift for sister. Help!
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Bring something for the sister, and something small for the brother.
@bob_ GA.
Perfect answer. Just the idea you thought of the brother will make him feel good.
I wouldn’t go to a birthday party without bringing presents for the people whose birthday it is. Or at least buying them a drink/contributing to food if it is at a restaurant. Maybe something like an Amazon gift card would be appropriate for the brother.
Give them both gifts if it’s something funny, like a pair of crazy socks or silly car accessories .They are are adults and not longer need to be treated as children who have to have everything equally distributed.
I’d bring something for both of them. Adults or not, it’s just plain bad manners to attend a birthday party without a gift for the birthday boy and/or girl. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, but I wouldn’t go empty handed.
It’s also bad manners to go to a wedding without a gift, but apparently no one told my husband’s family that was the case.
To me, it would be (sorta) the same as people coming to my wedding anniversary party and my friends not including my husband in the gift because they only know me. It would make me uncomfortable to only give a gift to one person at a birthday party, but on the other hand it would make me uncomfortable giving a gift to someone I have never met. I’d do what others suggested and I’d give a gift card for coffee or the such to the brother.
I would bring a regular gift for the sister and a token small gift for the brother.
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