Why do I feel guilty?
Is it normal for a person to feel guilty for liking someone for a long time? I’ve liked this guy since I met him (actually, 3 days after I met him, which was when we started talking on a daily basis) and I get this guilty feeling in my chest. Honestly, I don’t know what to make of it. I’ve felt guilty for liking him and I regret telling him, mainly because he seemed okay – and careless- to the fact that I told him, and he always liked someone else. He’s the first person (ever) that I’ve liked for longer than a 2 – 3 weeks.. I’ve actually liked him for about 10 months, 2 weeks and 3 days, to be exact. I’ve been trying to get over him, but nothing’s working. He kissed me and seemed interested in me one day, then ever since, we’ve rarely talked after we would have consistently talked all year. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know if this is normal or not, please, please help?
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No one can be guilty of liking someone, absolutely not. But if “he always liked someone else.” then the best thing to do may be to work at focusing on someone else. Also, normal or not normal is not that important, I don’t think.
You feel guilty because you told him you liked him when he liked someone else and you were hoping he would turn away from her and toward you.
But he didn’t. He doesn’t care about you.
Things are awkward between you because he knows that you like him and he does not reciprocate.
You need to move on.
I’m assuming that you’re not very old?
It sounds like its time to move on. You told him how you felt, not only does he not feel the same way about you, he’s acting like a child, not a mature person who should be considerate of your feelings.
Quit wasting your time and energy on a person that isn’t worth it.
You don’t have anything to feel guilty about, so try to stop feeling that way.
Now go find a guy that is worthy of your love, affection, and attention.
Liking someone does not guarantee that he will like you as you do.
He could very well could be testing his attractiveness to the opposite sex?
You could always ask him?
Sometimes the people we find attractive and fall for, don’t feel the same way about us. The only healthy thing to do in those circumstances is to accept it and move on. I’d try and keep away from him until you can be with him without feeling hurt and guilty. Go out with other friends. If he asks, be honest and tell him you’re giving him some space and taking some for yourself.
There’s few things that feel worse to a young person than unrequited love. The only cure is to accept that he will never like you back, move on and spend time with your other friends instead. Don’t worry about finding someone else to replace him; such things happen best when you’re not looking, not trying and not desperate. (Desperation is a real turn-off to guys).
…By the way don’t be unattached is not what I meant by focusing on someone else. It is not really obvious
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