( NSFW) How can I put out my best?

Don’t over think it. Just do it. Then do it again.

A premeditated plan is a performance NOT genuine love making.
Being obsessed with performance cannot blend with sincere, in the moment, unfolding of affection. Either you are fully present in the moment allowing things to unfold spontaneously or you are nothing but an actor.
Choice is yours, but most people prefer genuine to contrived.

Wanting to please your partner is one thing, being so narcissistic that you are orchestrating your every move for effect, cancels out an authentic encounter.
Leave the acting to the porn stars.

Thank you Coloma, but I didn’t mean to come off as narcissistic and all I want to do is please my partner better because I have failed in the past at that. I just don’t want to be embarrassed that’s all.

Asking her makes a lot more sense than asking us. It is her body and her sensations and her pleasure. Suggest that she and you both navigate and make course corrections along the way.

Personally, I have never understood what “the best orgasm” meant. They’re all good.

@Eggie Your partner will appriceate a “show” of vulnerability most. :-)
I did not mean to insinuate you are narcissistic, just be careful about trying to control the outcome of something that has to just happen from a place of genuine caring.

Pay attention to her. If she reacts well to something, keep doing that, if she doesn’t then move on.

Pay attention to ALL of her, not just her tits/vagina.

Truly care.

Make love to all of her. You’re not having sex with just her body. Make love to her mind, her heart, her soul, everything. And make her comfortable with her body. A lot of women are self conscious, reassure her and let her know you love her.

I know some girls that will tell you anything you’d like to hear, for the right price.

In real life, having sex with real people that you are in a real relationship with, I wouldn’t expect such lies.

@Adirondackwannabe wow, your girlfriend is lucky to have you.

Everyone here’s given great advice. In lovemaking, overthinking is your worst enemy.

I would first say redacted.

(Flutherized answer) If you don’t know how to do that or have any clues, maybe you should wait, or consult a sexologist.

(Actual answer) Taking suggestions on how to ”do it right” is a folie à deux. Having sex is not like running the hurdles or swinging a golf club. The mechanics from one partner to another is different as snowflakes. I could tell you that you have to do this to her Y, and then suck her X this way, then do that half way through. That might work for the last person I was with between the sheets but may not work at all for you to use on your girlfriend. Maybe she doesn’t have much sensitivity from her clit, to tell you to focus on it would be useless. Maybe she would achieve it through stimulation she has never tried yet. Maybe she won’t get the ”mind-blowing” trip to the Big ‘O’ without having a butt plug in place while you are boinking her. The best way is to ask her, and if she don’t know, trial and error. So she don’t get a toe-curling, eye-in-the-back-of-her-head, Jello quaking orgasm the first, second, or third time; when you do it there, it will be special, hopefully.

Yes, ask her.

Relax. You’ll have a better time if you relax about the whole thing.

Also, realize that as your relationship progresses, there will be times when you don’t come, times when she doesn’t come, times when you both come and times when nobody comes. It’s all good.

What everyone said along with foreplay, and don’t just hit it and an quit it. In other words, don’t make love to her and wait for her to orgasm and then its your turn and you are done and roll over and start snoring or get up and turn on the game. She is going to still want you next to her and present. It isn’t always about the orgasm. The connection afterwards leaves a longer impression.
Also remember that making love shouldn’t be a race.

I can only answer for me but my orgasms vary in intensity and pleasurability depending on a wide variety of things. When I haven’t really been in the mood for whatever reason and I’m not expecting a five star orgasm and I get one: bonus. I think it really depends in my stress levels, my cycle and how much I trust my partner. Zero trust=zero orgasms.

She should know how she achieves orgasm. Ask her and then when you are both ready make sure you keep communication open.