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Headhurts's avatar

What is your first opinion of this 'statement'?

Asked by Headhurts (4505points) August 25th, 2013

If someone said to you, or you said to someone, you were “happy enough”. What does that mean?

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RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

It means they have enough happiness.

Blondesjon's avatar

I would think that they meant they were doing okay.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Any happier and they’d hump your leg.

marinelife's avatar

That they have settled.

drhat77's avatar

1) they don’t want to expend the effort to become any happier
2) going into details with you will likely make them unhappier

chyna's avatar

It would depend on the context.
What was asked of them when they made the statement?

gailcalled's avatar

I’d read it to mean that I was soldiering on adequately but not in a state of euphoria. It is certainly a vague term and doesn’t bear too much anaylsis.

It is worth asking the speaker or yourself to be more explicit. And a noun and its modifier are not a statement.

Coloma's avatar

I think that’s a pretty direct and honest answer that doesn’t merit an in depth analysis.
“Happiness” is not a constant, it ebbs and flows depending on what the individual believes they need to be happy. Thinking that one can, or more to the point, “should” be happy all the time is delusional thinking, our dysfunctional programming.

The closest we can ever come to a state of sustained happiness would be a state of contentment. This IS the challenge in life, to find our moments of happiness in whatever circumstances are present.

Headhurts's avatar

The question was, are you happy?

CWOTUS's avatar

It’s not that the statement doesn’t bear analysis, I think, or deserve it, it’s an off-putting statement that pretty much says, “I’m okay; Leave me alone, and don’t press.”

You might actually discover that there’s a good bit of sadness behind the statement, but my sense is that the respondent doesn’t want to discuss that, doesn’t want to open up the can of worms, and wants to leave things as they are. “I’m happy enough. Now stop asking, or I might tell you how I really feel – and then both of us would be unhappy.

janbb's avatar

What is the issue behind this question? Did someone say this about a relationship and are you fretting?

SavoirFaire's avatar

Context is important. If said with a sigh, then they’re feeling like they’ve missed out on something. If said with a smile, then they realize that enough is abundance to the wise. Or at least, that would be my first opinion (as you asked). More information might change my mind.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Maybe it’s not negative & just a quick response. A big grin would change how you receive it for sure.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

To me, “happy enough” would mean “things could be better, but I’m content.”

Headhurts's avatar

It was said in a happy ish tone. Just a general conversation. No arguments or anxiety before hand. No worries. Just a general chat.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

“Are you sad?”

“Sad enough… Any sadder and I’d ask you to hump my leg.”

chyna's avatar

It was said in a happy ish tone. Just a general conversation. No arguments or anxiety before hand. No worries. Just a general chat.
In that case, I don’t see why you are asking. There doesn’t seem to be any reason to worry.

SomeoneElse's avatar

I take it to mean that the person is happy, ‘but’; there is more often than not a ‘but’!

Headhurts's avatar

@chyna I’m not worried. I just didn’t know what it meant, I wouldn’t use that term myself.

dgee's avatar

The word contented would convey about the same. Not unhappy, not glorious happy. Satisfied.

janbb's avatar

“Happy enough” has a more negative connotation to me than contented.

jonsblond's avatar

I agree with @janbb. It makes me think the person feels life could be better.

Sunny2's avatar

She’s realistic and doesn’t expect constant euphoria, and therefore is accepting her life as it is.

kavita000's avatar

I think it’s normal way of saying that he is happy and content. I don’t think it’s a negative response.

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