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Dutchess_III's avatar

Do you find this fb post a bit odd?

Asked by Dutchess_III (38188points) September 6th, 2013

I have an ex coworker who, after about 3 years of trying, finally had a baby with her husband. The kid is about 3. The sun rises and sets on that kid, as far as my ex coworker is concerned. He’s the most brilliant child on the face of the planet. He’s utterly perfect. (In reality he’s a brat!)

Now, my coworker is usually very, very conservative about what she posts. Very politically correct. But today she posted a pic of her son who was sitting on a chair. It looked like he was engrossed in tv or something, and he had his hand down the front of his pants. She commented “Boys…lol.”

I was like, WTH?? Boys do that, yeah, but you don’t post it for the whole world to see! It was really jarring, especially coming from her.

What do you think she was she thinking???

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’m thinking she was thinking ‘boys…lol.’ What specifically upsets you about that kind of pic? And please don’t say something vague about pedophiles.

ucme's avatar

People put all sorts of inane crap on there, puke inducing “life messages”, pics of a meal they’re about to eat, hysteria induced animal cruelty shots.
I don’t see anything wrong with a 3yr old playing with his ding-a-ling, not like it’s exposed, us boys love a spot of pocket billiards.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it either. I just find it weird that she would post a PICTURE of it for everyone!

ucme's avatar

She obviously felt comfortable doing so, that’s all that matters really.

KNOWITALL's avatar

She probably thinks his poopies are cute, too, just hope she doesn’t post pics of THAT! :)

Dutchess_III's avatar

Exactly @KNOWITALL. Not every freaking little thing your kid does is amazing! She probably thinks he’s advanced because he knows where his penis is at the young age of 3. Well, my kid was WAY smarter than her kid, if that’s one of the markers of intelligence!

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Dutchess_III Since I’m not a parent, I’m fairly hard to impress but I can tell you, if I sit down and your child is talking to me like a little adult, THAT will impress me. I love little smarty-pants kids the mostest, so flippin cute.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I like that too. I love asking them questions and hearing the unique answers they come up with!

Sueanne_Tremendous's avatar

There is an entire blog called STFU Parents that shows all sorts of Facebook pics that are, umm, questionable at best. Mostly highlighting parents who post pictures of their perfect children. I highly recommend it. Especially the section of “Mommy Hijacking” posts.

Dutchess_III's avatar

@Sueanne_Tremendous Your link just took me back to this question.

keobooks's avatar

This breaks my rule I think all parents should follow. If you wouldn’t post yourself or any other adult doing a certain action, you shouldn’t post your kids doing it. Imagine if she posted a pic of her husband scratching himself and her saying “Men. LOL!” I bet you anything she would NOT post that! Give the kid some dignity!

Dutchess_III's avatar

Man, you’re hot today @keobooks! Excellent answer!

CWOTUS's avatar

Nothing on Facebook surprises me any more. Nothing at all.

DWW25921's avatar

There are certain family moments that no one needs to know about. That’s one of them.

augustlan's avatar

She probably just thought it was funny. And it kinda’ is. I mean, it’s not like he’s masturbating…he’s just doing that ‘comfort thing’ that so many guys do when they’re fully relaxed. Still, I doubt her son will appreciate that picture being out there in the world when he’s older.

SadieMartinPaul's avatar

Little boys have always put their hands down the front of their pants. They’re not doing anything sexual, of course, but the feeling must be pleasant and comforting. If parents gently tell a boy that his behavior isn’t acceptable around other people, without making him feel naughty or humiliated, he’ll learn not to do it.

What hasn’t always been around? Digital photographs, video, and the internet. Nowadays, people’s normal and very human gaffs, flubs, and mistakes are fodder for public mortification. Actions that were once quickly over and forgotten are now documented online. This really isn’t healthy or good for anyone.

No, this mother shouldn’t be posting her “Boys…lol” photographs and comments. She’s supposed to be the mature grownup in this situation.

Seek's avatar

Meh. If you look hard enough at my facebook, you’ll find a video of my son at about 15 months old dancing naked to the Star Trek: The Next Generation theme song.

I win. ;-)

DWW25921's avatar

@Seek_Kolinahr That’s different. The joys of fandom appreciation are on a higher plane of existence.

LornaLove's avatar

I think people share too much of themselves on facebook.

Some things need to remain private.

Sueanne_Tremendous's avatar

Sorry for the flubbed link above, should be stfuparents

Dutchess_III's avatar

@SadieMartinPaul I’ve had a boy and I have 4 grandsons. I know what they do and why they do it. I don’t think it’s wrong at all. I just wouldn’t post it on fb.

downtide's avatar

Not an appropriate pic to be posting on FB or anywhere else online.

keobooks's avatar

Some friend of mine just posted a similar pic. Her 3 year old son was sitting on the couch with a sippy cup in one hand and his other hand was Al Bundy Style . Must be a fad.

SadieMartinPaul's avatar

@Dutchess_III I wasn’t suggesting that the little boy did anything wrong. He simply did what comes naturally. I said that the mother did something wrong. It’s her job to protect her child, not to expose him on Facebook as a joke.

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