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NSFW!!! What's the difference between a fitness model showing off their body half naked and a lingerie model?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907points) October 18th, 2013

I know some of you might say it’s the intention of the photo such as a lingerie model photo is to excite or stimulate sex mentally.

But what both have in common is that they’re meant to show off your body and what you got. For example: Fit pics
https://scontent-a-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/1234901_421746181268157_2039155286_n.jpg

https://scontent-a-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/999605_420705084705600_1949058127_n.jpg

Lingerie Pics
https://scontent-a-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/1390724_447572262018940_1130970007_n.jpg

https://scontent-b-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn2/v/1372980_10200821362802384_1219698975_n.jpg?oh=f28fd61be050576c8fd1d04534530138&oe=52633FB1

I’ve asked a somewhat similar question like this on fluther before but I’m bringing it up again because I “liked” a photo of a “sexy” pic of a friend. My sister texts me out of no where saying “How can you like her photo? It’s so trashy! She’s not a real model she shouldn’t be doing that…and she’s married with kids!” I asked “What about your friend Aimee (she’s a body builder and competes as a hobby)?” She takes sexy fit photos and my sister said “That’s different, Aimee is sexy and into fitness” But Aimee is ALSO married with kids!

I didn’t think it’s a big deal honestly. But I guess that picture of the girl with the car is considered really trashy to her. Her and her husband then attacked my opinion bringing it up again when I thought it was all forgotten. They said “If you’re not a body builder, model, or if you’re married you shouldn’t post those photos”.

Honestly, I don’t think they’re that trashy. I think there’s a difference between sexy and slutty. For example this is trashy to me
https://scontent-b-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn2/v/1379891_10200820934031665_823544737_n.jpg?oh=03a27576504af7c52821cfd5ff9563ea&oe=5263ADD6
Because her nips are showing through.

But anyways, I’m tired of my family making mini drama…Oh my gosh it’s not a big deal! Just because I have a different opinion doesn’t mean she needs to insult it and attack me…THEN tell her husband and they both gang up on why I’m wrong. Not only that but ask around to see who agrees with her and come back to tell me who else thinks I’m wrong.

Honestly, if I achieved the body I want…if I got it I’m going to flaunt it but of course in a way I see tasteful. I’ve never took photos but if I really want to I’m going to do it regardless if my sister and her husband disagree.

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ETpro's avatar

Great question. I guess we react based on our cultural understanding of what’s OK to show in public, and what isn’t. As you note, the fitness models are often showing more flesh, but the lingerie shots, particularly trashy lingerie, are intended to titillate whereas workout routines and the hard bodies they give us are intended to promote physical fitness.

ninjacolin's avatar

They probably “like” the photo too but they probably dislike the posting of it in a public forum like fb. I would agree with them that it isn’t the best place for that kind of thing.

A photo shared is a lot like telling your audience: “This is what I look like when I…” insert thing you’re doing

So.. body building progress is like: “This is how far I’ve come. This is what these muscle groups look like now.”

Sexy-time lingerie shots are like saying: “This is what I look like before I get my fuck on.” or “This is what my boobs look like if you peeped down my shirt” or “This is what I look like when I’m in heat.”

Thanks for sharing, but.. why? I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with documenting these very real aspects of yourself. But.. for everyone on facebook? I’m not that open about it all. Cool if you are though, whatever.

chelle21689's avatar

So what if you’re a bikini model/competitor? You have a great body worked to where you’re at and also take some swimsuit photos or car photos. How is that any worse than a fit person taking barely naked photos in a sexy way even though it’s about their muscles That’s what I’m trying to understand.

I just felt like it was wrong that my sister went out of her way to contact me to tell me my opinion is wrong and get her husband to tell me I’m wrong too and go off on me.

So you consider something like this inappropriate?
https://scontent-a-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/600535_10151787029449703_2049667753_n.jpg

I think it’s “hot” and not nasty/trashy.

chelle21689's avatar

I guess I don’t understand why it’s okay for men to easily have photos taken with no shirt. I mean to be sexy is muscles for men so it’s still sexy/fit. but they’re more accepting and not branded “trashy” or “inappropriate”

keobooks's avatar

I don’t see a difference. Neither offend me.

ninjacolin's avatar

^^^ I agree with you on that. If you have something you want to show off, you’re allowed to. I have some friends who are burlesque dancers, etc. They have all their shots on fb for the world to see. They flaunt what their business is about. They work hard at it. It’s all good.

There is no “worse” involved. A beautiful shot is a beautiful shot. There is a quality rating that your sister might be worried about.. eg. What if the person you’re referring to actually looks horrible in those pictures? Then it becomes a debate over quality. But some people won’t say: “She looks horrible in those images.” Instead they’ll simply say: “Uh.. it’s a trashy image.”

chelle21689's avatar

I guess what bothers me the most is that one day when I achieve the body I want through working out (I want to have a more athletic look) I would take fitness photos and a car pic in a cute outfit with my bf’s car. I would try to make it tasteful as possible but I know my sisters would harshly judge me. Especially since my bf requested for me to take photos with his car. He’s in a car club which organizes events and meets, they even work with models for some of the promotions. They’ve asked me to do a shoot but I’m afraid of what my sisters would say…they would think I’m bad….

I think it’d be fun though.

Seek's avatar

Typical American puritanism. Sex is dirty and evil, but strength and violence is good.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I don’t think any of the pictures you posted are trashy or inappropriate. They’re all adults and they all got paid for those pictures – it’s part of their jobs. If I had a body like that and could get paid what they get paid to pose for pictures, I’d do it. Most people would, whether they admit it or not.

I think 16-year-old girls taking selfies of themselves standing half-naked in their bathrooms are trashy. But there’s a difference between the two.

I have a friend on Facebook that isn’t a model, but has a photographer friend that will take sexy model-esque pictures of her. I don’t think they’re trashy at all. If you got it, flaunt it.

I’m not sure what being married has to do with anything. It’s a picture, not a porno. I think people that take offense to this might have a little jealousy issue.

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ucme's avatar

Fitness model, I grew a semi.
Lingerie model, Full boner.
Clear difference.

chelle21689's avatar

I agree with you livelaugh21.

So the next time I’m asked to take photos with the cars, do you think I should accept it regardless of what my sisters would think? At the risk of being ridiculed lol.

@ucme, did you even see the photos?

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Sunny2's avatar

@chelle21689 I’m sorry you have to deal with such a judgmental sister. Is she jealous of you? Make fun of her right back. She’s not you and you are not her. Why is she picking a fight about something that is so much a personal opinion? Does she expect you to think in lockstep with her?

chelle21689's avatar

My older sister and her husband are VERY opinionated. I’m scared of them because they can kill you with their words LOL you don’t want to mess with them when they’re angry!

As I said before, if you were me and you wanted to do something would you do it anyways regardless of how your sibling felt?

chelle21689's avatar

Actually @livelaughlove, these “models” weren’t paid. Maybe a couple of them were but majority are personal (for themselves)

bolwerk's avatar

I don’t see a difference. In fact, I don’t find anything about the pictures particularly strange or unusual.

Google “reaction formation.” That’s what your priggish acquaintances are doing when they get upset.

chelle21689's avatar

@bolwerk quite possibly? My sister is pretty but out of us 4 sisters she has the slowest metabolism and has a lot of weight loss but has the hardest of trying to maintain it. I don’t know if that’s the issue though. My oldest sister is considered “prettiest” and she’s fit but she agrees with my sister I think…only because she thinks it may compromise employment although she herself has taken sexy photos but haven’t POSTED them…she just keeps it on display in her bedroom though.

But honestly, if I wanna take sexy cool car pics or a bikini photoshoot they’re not stopping me lmao. She wouldn’t say crap if I was in a bikini at the beach and I had someone with a regular camera phone take a pic.

bolwerk's avatar

I don’t even see most of them as NSFW. A copy of Vanity Fair, Esquire, or Vogue sitting in a dentist’s office might have similarly racy ones.

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syz's avatar

Why worry about it? Just text back “You like what you like, I’ll like what I like”, and then drop it.

ninjacolin's avatar

^ i like that a lot.

mrentropy's avatar

I don’t see a difference. I’m A-OK with either one.

I also don’t see the difference between walking around in a bathing suit or your underwear.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Makes no difference to me. Six of one, half a dozen of another. Both are equally arousing, I can’t believe(or complain) about all of the women who wear the yoga pants around like it’s no big deal. If it was my daughter no sir, not going to happen.

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Dr_Lawrence's avatar

The meaning or significance of any picture that is not clearly illegal to post really is determined by the perception of the viewer. With reference to art, it has often been said that “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
Apparently you have encountered some negative feedback as a result of something you posted depicting yourself. You can expect everyone you know personally to perceive things the way you do. As an adult you must take responsibility for your choices. With reasonable people, explaining your intention might be sufficient to overcome objections. With other people, nothing you say or do will alter their opinions. That is unfortunate but true just the same.

ETpro's avatar

@ninjacolin Ha! That’s interesting!!!

ETpro's avatar

@ninjacolin This happens if you buy a Ducati? Might leave Harley a market.

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