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Not dreams, but nightmares?

Asked by Unbroken (10746points) November 7th, 2013

I have been having nightmares about a specific individual that I moved out of my life roughly two years ago.

Today I have tried to identify what is triggering them, as they have gotten more vivid and disturbing with each night and I seem to fall back into another nightmare of him. I have identitified none.

But now I am thinking about him and am running short on sleep esp restful. This is a stressful time in my life and I need to be on top of my game mentally.

How can I get a restful full nights sleep minus the ‘mares? Also could this mean I never recovered from the traumatic situation and need to take more steps to heal?

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Pachy's avatar

Obviously, something in your waking life has triggered these memories, which have translated themselves into nightmares. My advice—and this, from one who has suffered many nightmares in his life, many recurring—is to try not to worry about it and not to do anything but give yourself a bit of time. Restful sleep will return.

KNOWITALL's avatar

When I have dreams about someone, which is a very rare occurance, I always message them somehow and touch base and it stops. If the person wasa negative influence, maybe that won’t work for you.

flutherother's avatar

I would try to talk it over with someone and bring it out into the open. Nightmares are often repressed feelings. It might be so repressed you aren’t fully conscious of why it troubles you but talking about it should help.

livelaughlove21's avatar

Hypnocil. Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

I agree about talking it out with someone. And try to exercise or do some calming yoga before bed so your head is cleared. Positive thoughts before going to sleep.

picante's avatar

Good advice above . . . and you might try this little trick that has worked on occasion for me. I am prone to recurring dreams, and sometimes those are nightmares. I’ve learned to “direct” an outcome. Before you go to sleep, envision the dream unfolding, envision that you are the director on a movie set, and envision scripting, directing and acting in the movie/dream for the outcome that you desire. It doesn’t work every time, but I’ve had some success with this.

Unbroken's avatar

Very good advice.

I will try some different techniques mentioned above and see what works.

Hynocil definitely sounds promising… Lol.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I’ve been having a lot of nightmares lately as well. I’m up from one right now – 5:18AM. They’re not all about the same thing, though. It sucks – I’d like to not be scared to go back to sleep, thanks.

Unbroken's avatar

Sorry to hear livelaugh. Even though I did meditate exercise and realize the dreams I was having were not even about the person they featured but about some of the elements and just worst case scenario. I hestitated falling asleep and didn’t for hours last fatigue and bedtime.

Why worry about a mythic helll when the mind turns on you at your most vulnerable time.

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