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Do you love yourself?

Asked by Gifted_With_Languages (1140points) February 3rd, 2014

Do you think that a person has to learn to love themselves first before they can love others, why or why not?

Thank you very much for your answer, that will surely be satisfactory, as always.

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hearkat's avatar

Yes, and yes.

Mine would be a lengthy response, and so I am linking my comment on a similar question from last year.

Pandora's avatar

As children, not really. As adults yes. I don’t think children at first understand love. They simply start out with need and build trust and then with time love.
As adults we are independent. So our needs are usually met with ourselves. Adult love involves give and take. You have to learn how to balance your life by loving yourself first. Knowing what you need to make you happy and knowing that you can achieve it alone if need be. In loving yourself you don’t come from a place of need. Often people confuse the two. Need is not love. A person who does not love themselves is looking for someone else to fill that void, that black hole of need. Eventually the other person who loves them will feel drained and leave the relationship.
To be able to truly love someone. You have to know what it means to love and what to share that with someone and be able to value someone else. If you cannot value yourself, then it will never be possible to value someone else. Yes. You can need someone else. But love is nearly impossible if you never learned to love yourself. I only say nearly because I have not searched the world. But from what I’ve seen; People who hate themselves will usually doubt those who say they love them. You can’t understand what you never felt.

AshLeigh's avatar

I love myself very much. I think I’m hilarious and awesome.
I’m not so sure that self love is really necessary in order to love someone else. I haven’t always loved myself very much, but I have always loved others.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Yes. To be with an SO you have to give & receive love. Not everyone is capable of both sadly.

filmfann's avatar

No. I am full of self loathing. That said, I am able to love others. I just don’t understand why they love me.

Berserker's avatar

I don’t love myself either. Fuck myself. I also don’t love anyone else, screw you guys lol.

tups's avatar

I don’t think you have to love yourself to be able to love another person. What is self love anyway? I think loving oneself is a modern cliché. Yes, of course you have to like yourself, like being inside of yourself and be friends with yourself. But it’s not the same as loving someone else at all. If you are too occupied with loving yourself, I don’t think you will be able to love someone else.

zenvelo's avatar

One of the major growth areas for me in the last 8 years is finally loving myself. It has taken a long time, even though I knew in my thirties it was something I needed to work on. And it snuck up on me last summer, that I was finally able to make sure my needs are met.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Me love me long time. :0

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