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I am a grandma (meemaw) to a 7 yr old girl. Any councelors?

Asked by Hanau (10points) March 11th, 2014

There was an accidental ingestion of something containing alcohol when she was 2. My daughter (child’s mom) took it out on me because she felt so guilty (she was with my grand daughter when it happened) and, after that incident, she began leaving for 3–4 weeks at a time without telling her 2 yr old daughter. My son in law and daughter were having marital problems. They all lived with me. The little one got to where she wouldn’t let me out of her site. She wouldn’t stay at preschool. I took her to my office with me every day and after about 3 yrs she began to gradually be ok without me or someone close to her within sight. Her mom continued to travel a lot. Her dad still lived in my house until a few months ago, staying more and more at his girlfriends house. My grand daughter (now 7) doesn’t even know that they are divorced. I finally got them to go see a councelor to get help with telling her in the least damaging way, because her father just wanted to have her hang out with his new girlfriend (now they are engaged). Anyway, there are more details but the issue here is that she has suddenly regressed to not letting me out of her sight. Her mom left a few weeks ago without telling her (that’s how it happened when she was 2) and suddenly she won’t go to school. She starts crying at school – says she doesn’t know why, she just needs to see me. She has gone to school for almost 2 years and has never once cried! She is obviously having a recurrence of the previous feelings of abandonment. I am mostly raising her. What do I do?! Most say to leave her at school crying and suffering. Won’t that just reinforce the abandonment feelings? Are there any therapists out there?

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