What is your take on the concept of Situational Awareness?

This concept was mentioned in another post as a trait to look for when one is on a first date. Some of that overlaps with what I often refer to as “social niceties” – with which I struggle.

As observed in people on the Autism Spectrum, this ability to read and respond to external and especially social cues is an innate trait. I would think that this talent is higher among people who are more extroverted. In our culture, it is a trait that is expected to be higher in females than males. Most who know me say that I am considerate and compassionate; however, I do not pick up easily on social cues, and since I am female, I am judged harshly for this.

Like all skills, one can work to improve their abilities, but it is not the same as someone for whom it comes naturally. For example, I have made a conscious effort and have come quite far in being less withdrawn. However, a colleague of mine is a classic “mensch” and I see the difference it makes in how she is perceived by others, as opposed to my introversion and lacking SA.

To what extent do you feel that SA is a learned skill or an innate trait? Do you have any advice or tips to help people like myself for whom this talent is elusive?

Would it be a deal-breaker for you in a potential relationship? Do you think that it should be a measure by which people are judged in skilled professions?

Can you imagine a society where those of us who are born lacking these traits are not seen in a negative light, since this is how we are born?