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What makes some females very dominant in bed or relationships?

Asked by fuglyduckling (412points) June 12th, 2014

Or could make. I was wondering if there’s some sort of psychological explanation to this.

I have thoughts of carrying boys on a leash and beating them up in bed. They are fun thoughts, but I don’t think I’d actually ever do them without the other’s consent. I’m also emotionally manipulative sometimes.

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marinelife's avatar

Probably the same thing that makes some males very dominant in bed or relationships.

marinelife's avatar

@fuglyduckling Here’s an article that discusses the topic extensively.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Power is a real turn on for some people.

Dan_Lyons's avatar

Generally speaking, people who require their lovemaking to include elements of Sado Masochism and/or D & s have a broken cog within.

But then 99.99999999% of humans are broken in one way or another


You seem to enjoy the top position, so the more power to you.

Seek's avatar

I should hope that no one would do those things without their partner’s consent. Kink is supposed to be consensual, even if on the outside it doesn’t look like it.

zenvelo's avatar

I’ll ask a complimentary question- what makes so many men, especially “powerful” business men, submissive? It’s also true of alpha women.

antimatter's avatar

When the opposite partner have a weaker personality…

hsrch's avatar

Nobody knows.

Pandora's avatar

I would say control. But I’m sure sometimes it is for fun. Freedom to express yourself sexually can make a person also feel very empowered, and energized.
What makes people like chocolate and some hate it.
Different strokes for different folks.

gailcalled's avatar

Some women have more testosterone than others. That may be a contributing factor.

Coloma's avatar

Personality type, extroverts are more demonstrative and vocal in and out of bed and, of course, there is also just your good, old fashioned control freaks. haha

pleiades's avatar

@zenvelo Ahh the good old alpha woman. I would love to have met such a woman in the past. I guess they don’t really present themselves until after college no?

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Individuality. There could be a whole range of physiological or psychological causes/reasons that combine to influence a person’s particular preferences.

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