Why is it that when you are honest people get mad?

Somtimes what people really want is validation that they’re right, not honesty.

Well, just because you were honest doesn’t mean she has to like it. Part of any relationship is fudging it a bit so that you can live together and not have said explosions.

Would you feel better if you had lied and she didn’t get upset? I guess it all boils down to how YOU feel about it. Sometimes I can be brutally honest, but I try to reserve these occassions for when I feel that my conscience won’t allow me to lie. Other times, mostly when I really don’t care either way, I just say whatever I think someone wants to hear. That is usually what most people want anyway. Depending on the depth of your friendship, she should have known you would tell her how you really felt. I find it a bit ridiculous if you ask someone for their opinion, and then you get angry when they give it to you.

There are ways of saying how you are feeling and being simultaneously tactful. I noticed on your profile that you described your area of expertise as Random bull crap. That does not bode well for respectful dialog.

Honest or rude? There’s a difference. It’s all in how you say things.

I think if ur friendship is strong enough u can speak what u feel about a situation and your friend will be able to take it and know that its just that your opinion.

yeah, sometimes it’s better just to tell people what they want to hear. I wouldn’t make a habit of it though; sometimes I feel like I do that too much. It’s a bit like that Seinfeld episode where George’s girlfriend got so upset when he told her the real reasons he wanted to break up.

You can be as tactful as possible, and if someone still doesn’t like what you have to say, they might get upset with you anyway.

If you do some reading about conflict resolution, you will get better ideas than from sit coms.

@Tiny: too true.

Because some people feel they can handle the truth, but very few can.

Honesty is the best policy but the truth hurts.

Positioning matters! It’s not what you say as much as how you say it.
That, and just because you’re honest doesn’t mean you’ll gain support. You might honestly have a disagreeable view.

It may not be what you said, but the way you said it that upset your friend. You really didn’t give us enough information here to give you a good answer.

And still haven’t checked in. Maybe it wasn’t all that important after all?

Maybe Bunkin has fealt ill.

It got cleared up. But I am still the bad guy. :(

the truth hurts. no but it all depends on your timing you say it and the tone.

people are afraid of the truth. anger is a feeling that can hide someones fear.

the truth can be difficult to process.

As such there are better and worse ways and times to hear it.

Just like there are people who are better and worse at judging how and when those times are.