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When one orders another is it expected that politeness and respect go hand in hand?

Asked by Hypocrisy_Central (26829points) August 22nd, 2014

When someone, a boss, official, worker of the store, etc. ask you or orders you to do, or stop doing something, for instance, not sit on display furniture, not park as close to a fire exit, don’t leave stuff in the break room, etc., is it expected that if they ask you respectfully they should be polite too? If you were asked respectfully but not politely, would you feel it was still disrespectful?

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downtide's avatar

I’m having a hard time imagining what a request that is respectful but impolite even sounds like. Is such a thing even possible?

bomyne's avatar

If someone asks me to do something, i expect it to be fully respectful and polite, regardless of who you are. If you are my boss, an officer of the law, the queen… I expect any requests directed at me to include Please and thank you, and to talk to me as if i were your equal, not a stain on your carpet. And I will return it in kind.

Not sure why the queen would ever have reason to talk to me though…

livelaughlove21's avatar

I can’t imagine how someone can be respectful but not polite…

elbanditoroso's avatar

It’s certainly proper to be polite, but I don’t think it’s required. Most people are polite as a natural function, but there is no law that forces them to be.

gailcalled's avatar

Linguistically, respectful is a synonym of polite.

“Dictionary.com:

polite
adjective
having or showing behavior that is respectful and considerate of other people:?

dappled_leaves's avatar

It’s certainly possible for anyone to be polite but disrespectful. “Bless your hearts”.

I think that for someone to be impolite and yet respectful, there has to be a close or longstanding relationship. For example, brothers can call each other the worst sort of names as signs of camaraderie. It’s like a token of trust. But you can’t get away with that with people who you barely know, and it’s a bad idea to try it with when there is a power imbalance, like the employer/employee relationship.

In other words, yes – politeness and respect should go hand in hand when dealing with employees.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@downtide I’m having a hard time imagining what a request that is respectful but impolite even sounds like. Is such a thing even possible?
Well, or instance:
Polite, and respectful: Please, we do not allow people in this part of the lobby, please make your cell phone call out on the patio or in the main part of the lobby, thank you.
Respectful but not polite: There is a sign that says this part of the lobby is closed to all but staff, you can use the main part of the lobby or the patio, but you have to leave here.
Disrespectful: Hey, you over there, get out of there, can’t you read, there is a sign right there that says this part is for staff only. You want to make a call go to the main lobby like everyone else or go to the patio.

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