Should I tell my boyfriend's sister I nicked her car's bumper immediately or wait?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907

) September 6th, 2014 from iPhone

I was parking behind my boyfriend’s sister on the driveway and I was even trying to be really careful. My boyfriend walked out and noticed my car was touching her part of the car where there is that black plastic trim that isn’t part of the paint job. I backed out away and noticed there were some light surface scratches but I could easily wipe it away. I didn’t even know I hit it cuz there was no bump felt or even heard.

Then I noticed a tiny nick, smaller than half a dime. Hard to notice unless you sit there close up and inspect it and look towards the bottom of the bumper and tilt your head.

I’m not sure whether to tell her ASAP when I first see her when she comes back from vacation today OR wait to see if she even notices. My bf said she might notice because she’s loves her car and notices everything.

I’m not sure what to do but I feel bad. I was going to tell her either way but I’m not sure if I should just tell her right away if she’s not going to notice..

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Just tell her and get it over with so you can free your mind of the worry about it.

jca (36062

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Yep. Tell her, and offer to pay for repairing it.

snowberry (27645

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Tell her now.

chyna (51301

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Tell her right away. Immediately after the hello’s and welcome homes are done.

JLeslie (65412

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Yes tell her right away, but, of course, after the flurry of greetings and settling in. You don’t have to sit her down as for a big confession. Just find a moment you can be talking with her and say, “Hey, I bumped your car the other day when I parked. I looked, and there is a little nick.” That is it.

Here2_4 (7152

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Tell her immediately. It won’t be half as bad as worrying about it is!

longgone (19535

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You’ll feel sooo much better after you ‘fess up.

Pachy (18610

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No , let her get back otherwise she may blow it out of proportion in her mind. When you tell her calmly, make sure your boyfriend is with you so things can stay balanced.

ZEPHYRA (21750

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Tell her now. She’s probably loosing sleep being angry with whoever did the damage and didn’t tell, so get it over with! Honesty is always the best policy.

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@chelle21689: Please post an update as to how things go! Good Luck!

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jca (36062

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Everything is okay. She said she wouldn’t have even noticed it but knowing that I wasn’t that careful enough wasn’t a good feeling of course.

chelle21689 (7907

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