At what point do you cut off opposite sex friends in your relationship if you have nothing to hide?

This has been on my mind a lot lately considering what my friend is going through. I’ve been reading a lot about emotional affairs and warning signs.

In my past relationship I’ve had a couple friendships that fit some signs of emotional affairs but there were no feelings involved or attraction. When I say it fits I mean by talking every day for hours and talking about issues included. They say you shouldn’t talk about issues to avoid affairs but if you do this with your girlfriends why can’t you do this with a guy friend where you see each other as bro/sis in a way where you can’t imagine dating them ?

Looking back, I think if this situation were to arise, I’ve learned that it doesn’t really matter if there’s no feelings for each other with a friend and that if it upsets my boyfriend with the amount of time talking, then I should probably cut back.

But logically speaking, if I can talk to girlfriends for hours what makes it any different and does this mean that there’s no trust? Just trying to get perspectives on here.

To be honest, since my boyfriend has always had just male friends I never had to deal with that stuff (Thank goodness!). I think if he were were to start having new female friends, yes I’d be jealous. I think if he started to hang out with a girl alone as often as he does with his guy friends I wouldn’t like it at all. Which I’m not sure if it’s okay…

I do have a guy friend though my boyfriend doesn’t seem to worry about. But that is because I’ve been friends with him for years, we talk here and there shortly, and we once in a blue moon meet up for lunch.

So at what point do you take your significant other’s side if nothing truly is going on and you cut down on contact?

I’d like to hear opinions just because my mind is wandering.

What are some boundaries you set for your relationship regarding friends of the opposite sex?

I’d also like to point out I think it can happen in same sex friendships. When I was younger I remember my then-boyfriend always having another one of his friends to do like everything with and tag along and I was jealous and annoyed. I didn’t think he’d cheat but I felt like he was his “boyfriend” in a way lol.