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Men, can you try to imagine what it would be like to be constantly wary and afraid of men when you're out in public?

Asked by Dutchess_III (46811points) September 17th, 2014

It’s something we women live with every day. When you call an elevator and it comes down and has only men in it, I wait for the next one.

Walking alone to your car your radar goes on high alert. If it’s dark and no one else is around, it starts raging. A parking garage can almost lead to a panic attack.

My boyfriend in college wanted to take me walking by the river one night in Wichita. I hesitated, but then agreed. I was uncomfortable and kind of scared the entire time.

In the 90’s I was staying the weekend with my boyfriend and I accompanied him to his apartment laundry facility, down in a basement. The stairs only allowed single file. Coming back up my boyfriend was in front, I was behind him. Suddenly there was another man behind me. My hackles went up. Maybe he was too close or something, because my boyfriend sensed it too. Without stopping he glanced back and gave the guy a very dangerous looking gaze, and the guy backed off.

It’s not so bad now that I’m older, but as a young girl, woman, I was aware that I was a constant target and it was all sexual.

Can you men even imagine that?

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