Does being a straight—looking gay means I haven't faced up to my sexual orientation?

As is asked above…I’ve always wondered that are there always a “husband role” and a “wife role” in gay relationships? Are all gays, to some extent, feminine?(no offense…I suck at picking the appropriate word..) And..does it mean I haven’t faced up to my sexual orientation being a straight-looking gay (I mean character instead of clothing)?..
Thanks a lot :) !