Would you disown someone if they were friendly to your rapist (and knew)

This is not your typical “Facebook Drama” story…

For more than two years, I was in a sexually an emotionally abusive relationship with a man from a different country.

After my mother died, I went and lived with him and his parents in South America (under some duress and much prodding from him) and the abusive and controlling behavior unsurprisingly got much worse once I was far from home and isolated from my friends and family. He would pressure and/or force me to have sex with him when I didn’t want to – including anal sex – which left me with physical and emotional injuries and PTSD on top of everything else I was dealing with at the time.

I broke up with him a year ago and have made big strides getting over what he put me through, but my best friend’s mother (and my deceased mother’s former best friend), doesn’t seem to believe that he was abusive to me. She was disappointed when I broke up with him and tried to discourage me from leaving him because she had only ever seen his “nice” side and didn’t take it seriously when I told her that he had mistreated me. (He even forced me to throw out my mother’s ashes because he didn’t like having them around.)

A few weeks ago, I found out through a friend that she was still “liking” and commenting on his Facebook posts, telling him how handsome he is and otherwise heaping praise upon the man who used to leave me with anal tearing and vaginal yeast infections from forcing himself inside of me. (She doesn’t know all of the gritty details, but she knows enough.)

I shot her a brief, two-sentence message on FB telling her I would appreciate it if she didn’t interact with him because he was sexually and emotionally abusive to me throughout our relationship. She saw the message but ignored it.

I just find out that she’s still liking and commenting on his content and honestly, I’m just devastated to know this. I’ve been known this woman for 21 years and have been best friends with her daughter since we were 4. She was my mother’s close friend and took care of her while she was ill, so to say we are close is an understatement. Her not taking my experience seriously and continuing to interact with and praise my abuser feels like a re-victimization after I’ve come so far.

I gave her a chance to make it right and she flat-out ignored me. I’m hurt and I’m confused. Should I cut her off? I want to but am afraid it would hurt my friend. What should I do? :’(