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Why is someone always smiling creepyly? It scares me!

Asked by wsxwh111 (2464points) March 25th, 2015

My tutor who’s guiding my final project in college is always smiling when he’s talking to me, like ALWAYS, and he smiles like he’s afraid of ANYTHING would go wrong or any confrontation. It also seems like he’s known me well for a long time or we’re good friends but I don’t even know him, neither do I like him, it’s creepy! Even I’ve done a bad job or he’s criticizing me he still got that creepy so f_ing friendly smile which he himself probably even thinks charming or thoughtful knowingly or maybe he’s scared deeply inside or something..It freaks me out. And I don’t know why I care so much.
Does that mean he’s hiding his depression or anxiety or something?

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dina_didi's avatar

Maybe he is trying to be friendly or he is flirting with you. Have you noticed if he is making any moves on you or checking you out?

rojo's avatar

You mean like This?

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

It’s you. You need to just grow up and focus on what is important. You’re nearly a college graduate and you still think like you’re in middle school.

Mariah's avatar

You might be overthinking this. I am a tutor. We are trained to keep a positive attitude at all times, because the students we help are frequently discouraged about their schoolwork.

hominid's avatar

@wsxwh111: “Does that mean he’s hiding his depression or anxiety or something?”

Probably hiding a body in his basement.

Or he could be genuinely happy and friendly. I’m tempted to suggest that you look more closely at yourself here. But at the same time, I don’t want to discount intuition and personal interactions. If you are uncomfortable with this person and have such a strong feeling, it’s possible that you are sensing something legitimate in his gaze. Don’t put yourself in an unsafe scenario with him if you feel this strongly. But it wouldn’t hurt to try to figure out why you are feeling so freaked out.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Have you seen him interact with other students? Does he smile at them as well? Or does he only smile at the women.

Pachy's avatar

The smile you perceive as “creepy” may simply be his way of projecting friendliness and accessibility. Unless he exhibits some sort of inappropriate behavior, why not avoid trying to intuit what he’s thinking and just take his smiles at, well… face value.

Safie's avatar

Best not to jump to conclusions maybe your tutor is trying to be friendly unless there are other clear indications or actions to suggest otherwise take it as just that a simple smile one that you don’t like maybe that’s why you say it’s creepy…it’s creepy to you because you don’y like his smile, we all smile differently, take it with a pinch of salt.

RocketGuy's avatar

Some people smile inappropriately. There is a guy who always comes to our neighborhood meetings. He smiles when he is angry. That sets off my BS alarm. I stop believing the things he is complaining about when he does that.

ibstubro's avatar

@rojo gets a LOL.

When I was in kindergarten, I had Mrs. LaRue. The other kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Young, creeped me out because she had a constant smile, even while disciplining me. I hated it, but they were both 55+ women. I think it was just a facial pattern.

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