Social Question

Eggie's avatar

At what age did you move out of your parents house?

Asked by Eggie (5865points) March 31st, 2015

I am 29 years old and I am still living with my parents. I plan to move out in the next two years when I am finished with my Masters Degree. Does living with my parents at this age make me weird? I have had comments from a whole lot of people that my actions tell them I still live with my mom. Is living with my parents taking a toll on me? How old were you when you moved out?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

30 Answers

talljasperman's avatar

35 years old.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

No. Still living with your parents at the age of 29 doesn’t make you weird. It is just not the norm based upon today’s standards.

girassol's avatar

I’m going to be 24 this year, and am still living with my parents. I plan to move out in 3–4 years, once the apartment I will live in has been constructed.

Housing in Singapore is really expensive, so people tend to live with their parents ‘til they get married. (Most people have to get married before they are eligible for public housing.)

elbanditoroso's avatar

It used to be (pre-recession) that most youth moved out by the time they were 24–25.

With the economy as it is, the old rules really aren’t good guidelines any more. It’s more a factor of economics (income) and not age.

Blackberry's avatar

I joined the military after high school, but if I didn’t, I probably would still be living with her. It’s hard out there man.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I got out of college at 23 with a job starting two weeks after I graduated. I moved out in the next year. But that was in a much better job market.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

17 moved back at 21 and left for good at 23.

Mimishu1995's avatar

I’m still living in their house.

jca's avatar

Age 18.

My sister moved out right after she graduated from college.

prettypenny's avatar

18.

I moved back at 20, then out for good at 21.

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

Went from my family to live on my aunt’s ranch when I was 16, moved from there to college when I was 18.

fluthernutter's avatar

18, At some point during college, going home just changed to visiting my parents.

I don’t think it is weird to live with your parents. Sometimes it makes the most sense financially.

However, I do think it makes you weird living with your parents. Because you’re living in this bizarre limbo of adulthood and it tends to make people a little cuckoo.

(Unless you have exceptional parents who view you as an adult and respect your boundaries.) Ha!

longgone's avatar

I was 19, but I do still live near my mum and extended family. I see at least some part of my family almost daily.

29 is old to be living with your parents, in my opinion – but then again, who cares? Relationships between parents and their adult children vary. Some see each other once a year, some don’t speak at all, some live close to each other and talk once a day. As long as you are not afraid to move out, I think you should feel free to live your life just like you please.

anniereborn's avatar

At the age of 23 when I got married.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

I left home at 17. I never returned.

My children all left home by the time they were 20, but two of them have now moved back to save to buy property (they are in the 29 age range). We’re all perfectly okay with this. I want them to get ahead financially and we have enough space to all have our individual space and privacy.

It’s very expensive to get into the property market here and paying for rent, power and all those other expenses makes it difficult to save a good deposit. I think more young people are living at home for longer as @hominid‘s link explains.

newtscamander's avatar

I was 17, but my close family, except for my father, has always lived at walking distance to my home.

Silence04's avatar

I moved out at 18.

I would definitely say living with your parents without ever attempting to move out until your 30s is strange. The dynamics of your relationship with your parents completely change when you move out and support yourself. I’d imagine if I was still living with my parents at that age they would still be treating me like I was 12 in some aspects.

jca's avatar

I think if someone has their own apartment in the parents’ house, it might be ok because they would have privacy and yet still be able to save money (how much money depends on what the parents charge for rent/room/board, if anything). But to live in the same living quarters as the parents, I would think, would somewhat stunt the adult child emotionally, socially, etc. unless they’re stunted already for some reason.

dxs's avatar

I left when I was 17, the day after my high school graduation ceremony. I’ve been back here and there, totaling maybe about a month of stay. I still have some stuff there that I want with me, but I don’t plan on living there in the future.
I won’t make any judgments about you living with your parents.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I believe I was 21. I was still in college at the time.

Cupcake's avatar

My oldest is in college, although he is taking next year off to live at home and apply to other schools.

When we look to buy a different house in a better school district in a few years, we will look for a house that has an area that my oldest could live in (at least) semi-independently as long as he needs. We have no idea what the state of the economy, jobs, income and debt will be in a handful of years… let alone a decade or more.

We have a good relationship and he doesn’t want to miss out on his little brothers formative years. If I thought the arrangement wasn’t healthy, for whatever reason, I would discuss it with him. My goal is to be supportive… not enabling.

Eggie's avatar

Well for those of you that still live with your parents, do you have a problem with privacy; like what jca described? What if you and your girlfriend want to have sex; where do you go? Do you always have to “sneak” the girl in like I do? Eventually she will get tired of that. I experience slightly irritating moments when I want to have a private conversation and I cant because my parents are in the room, or when im ready to watch porn. Also certain decisions I would like to make I cant make them. For example, if my gf wants to spend a weekend with me, she cant because of my parents. Do you all have any problems with that?

jca's avatar

@Eggie: That’s a great question! You might get more responses if you pose it as a new question (that way everyone will see it). The people that answered here might have stopped following. I gave you a GA.

MollyMcGuire's avatar

Nineteen. I married and within three years we owned our own house. It was a wreck but we turned it into a showplace. We took it back to its 1906 beauty.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

@Eggie Would you mind giving us an update? It’s been a year since this question was posted. Are you still living with the parents? If so, is all well? How’s the goal to finish the degree in a year coming along? Any plans on the next steps yet?

Eggie's avatar

I just have 4 more weeks before my Masters Degree is complete. What I am going to do after is still not well known. I still have piece of me wanting to move to the US, but I am also thinking about building a house on the land my father left for me. Only time will tell. As for now..im still with my Mum and Dad.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

You are in a period of significant transition. Allowing yourself some time to determine the right thing to do from here is a very good plan. There’s no rush. While it probably feels like you need to be ‘doing’ things with your life, taking time to reflect on what’s right for you is a great investment in your future. Congratulations on almost finishing your Masters degree.

Eggie's avatar

Im also finding myself wanting a car, a girlfriend and some kids. So much is on my mind right now. Somehow I have to upgrade. Im 30 years old now and I feel like life is leaving me behind.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther