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SQUEEKY2's avatar

If being gay is a choice, then when did you choose to be straight?

Asked by SQUEEKY2 (19395points) April 30th, 2015

And if you didn’t choose, you were just always straight think it might be the same for gay people?
I mean I never chose, I was always straight, what about you did you make a choice or just always knew?
I can’t understand how some people actually think it’s a choice.

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SQUEEKY2's avatar

Inspired by a youtube video I saw yesterday feel free to post it if you want or must.

kritiper's avatar

It was all those cute little junior high school girls. Actually, I always liked girls, especially the ones who weren’t my sisters!!!

dxs's avatar

There was no choice involved. It’s a natural biological drive so that we can reproduce, and that’s how God intended blah blah blah blah.

tinyfaery's avatar

Again. This has been asked a million times.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

I’ve seen that video and it is worth re-posting. When did you choose to be straight?

All I can tell you is that I grew up in an environment where sexual preference was never discussed. It wasn’t until homosexuality, and later bi-sexuality and then other variations, came to light, that it all clicked. It explained why some of the kids I grew up with were the way the they were, including myself.

It isn’t just about being homosexual or heterosexual. There is a full spectrum. The video is just a start in tackling the topic.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Once the girls my age grew tits I knew my life was over. I can’t believe that anyone in this century can still hang on to the idea that sexuality is somehow a choice.

talljasperman's avatar

I always liked girls.

Blondesjon's avatar

Right after horrible sex with another man.

come to think of it that could have ended up the other way around. i guess sexual orientation is just a case of timing.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

@Pied_Pfeffer That is the video, Thanks, I just don’t get it when people actually think it’s a choice that is what inspired this question I am not gay Mrs Squeeky can attest to that, and I never could be gay that is why I know it is NOT a choice.

Misspegasister28's avatar

My question is, why would someone choose to be gay? There’s nothing wrong with being gay, of course, I’m bisexual myself, but gays are treated so horribly in society, so, why would someone choose that?
When I was younger I thought I was straight, but then I noticed myself growing more and more attracted to girls. I didn’t choose it, it just happened.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

@Misspegasister28 I often wonder why someone’s gender is a matter of question or worse.

Part of it seems to stem from the fact that homosexuality represents a small part of the population. Those in the majority (heterosexuals) are less likely to be exposed to homosexuals, especially if they keep it under wraps. This is why it is so important that openly recognize who they are without the fear of animosity.

The other factor is some of today’s religions. Both Christianity and Islamic beliefs have played an important role in setting traditions and even laws in some countries. They have been around long enough to brain-wash the current generations against homosexuality. These specific beliefs may have served a purpose at one point, which was to increase population in order to support these religions.

Times are changing. The world is now overpopulated in some countries. Economic factors are on the downside. And most importantly, we have a better understanding of gender variances.

Misspegasister28's avatar

@Pied_Pfeffer Yeah I agree! And I think some of it may be just the fear of anything different, you know? Since most people haven’t grown up around homosexuality, they first see it and think, “Ew, how gross! That’s not the way things are!” And they keep those opinions without educating themselves about homosexuality. If they were to learn more about it though, I’m sure a lot more people would be gay supporters.

ibstubro's avatar

The cursor slipped between ♂ & ♀?

rojo's avatar

It just happened and I learned to live with it. As that famous philosopher, Popeye, once said “I yam what I yam!”

ucme's avatar

My cock chose for me, got hard when I looked at pretty girls, I willingly followed.

Dutchess_III's avatar

When I experimented with being gay once and was utterly repulsed.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

@Dutchess_III so you chose then??
A gay sex act doesn’t make one gay.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I just answered the question the way it was asked. I experimented and learned I do not have a gay bone in my body!

GracieT's avatar

It’s interesting, I think. I can never choose to be a lesbian (I like my husband way too much!) so how could people who are homosexual choose
not to be? I think that for homsexuals choosing not to be is as unsettling as choosing not to be straight is for me.

RabidWolf's avatar

I’ve always been straight, I was chasing girls in the first grade. I never knew what gay was until my mother told me Jim Neighbors and Rock Hudson were married. My response was: “eew gross mom. They’re guys, guys don’t do that.” I was 10 at the time, but I knew what went on in the bedroom. I never wanted to feel or felt anything for the same sex.

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