Can a guy and a girl be friends?

Yes. I have had some great male friends, just platonic.

I think so. If they are just common friends or both of them know wisely about what they want.

Yes indeed. In fact it’s possible for you to have life-long friendships with your ex s as well. My problem is that mine tend to join the wife in ganging up on me.

Yes. There is a lesbian couple with a back yard that connects to mine. They are really wonderful people. I have no sexual interest in them and they have no sexual interest in me (obviously). I really enjoy their company because it’s so liberating being able to be open and friendly with the opposite sex without any concern for sexual tension developing.

@divinepk3r – everyone else has answered this question from the point of view of being an adult. However, you identified yourself as a teen, and I want to try to answer from that point of view.

It’s not that adults are wrong – it’s just that you’re in a different place in your life than they are.

As a teen, you’re going through all sorts of changes – growing, getting smarter, hormones, maturity, the whole works. Hormones are what make you discover the opposite sex – it’s what drives a lot of what you do. Remember that until about 100 years ago, most girls were married by age 18–19, in some civilizations even earlier.

From an anthropological point of view, ancient tribes used to marry off their kids to other tribes very early – like age 16–17 – in order to have lots of babies and strengthen the tribe.

So… if you’re a teen, you’re sort of anthropologically trained to be interested in the opposite sex right now. It’s what 40 million years of evolution have produced.

That’s doesn’t mean that you can’t be ‘just friends’ – but it does mean that you are working against your hormones and the history of humanity.

Bottom line – it’s tough and it’s rare.

Sure. I’ve always had male friends.

Yes. But it probably works out much better if you aren’t teenagers. At that age, people go through a lot of hormonal changes and sexual development.

With that said, I had friends of the opposite sex at that age. While there were many rocky moments due to sexual tension from both sides, some of those friendships flourished later in life.

I have several male friends, including one whom I call my big brother. We are both married, but despite that, we could NEVER be interested in one another, for we differ significantly on many issues, such as politics. (I’m a liberal and he is a conservative conservative!) Despite this, we truly love one another and spend time together, such as a week long trip to Florida to see our own families last summer.

Most of my close friends are women. Sometimes there are pangs of attraction, but for the most part, it is a healthy and rewarding platonic relationship.

Yup.

Source: I am a girl with lots of guy friends who I would not date.

Yes, but it can be difficult where others (romantic interests) are concerned and if certain boundaries are not set.

Yes, but… it’s up to the females to make sure that the guys are not secretly attracted to them. This happens a lot with guys who lack self confidence and don’t “get” relationships. I watched my sister hang on to a couple of these poor souls. She was oblivious to the fact that they liked her. She eventually figured it out but that made things awkward.

Why not, actually? If there is no sexual connection between you two, that’s possible.

Yes, I actually have a male friend i’ve been friends with for years. He’s actually married as well and his wife knows about our friendship.. He and I area friends apart from his wife.