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How does it make you feel when some one gets the joke, but doesn't get the joke?

Asked by Dutchess_III (42454points) October 21st, 2015

My 16 year old grandson came by the other day. I was excited because he doesn’t come by very often.

However, he was there only to pick up some money a friend of his mom’s had left with me.

I had to get a picture of him to log the visit. All the posing in it was his idea because he’s a goof.

So, on FB I said, “My 16 year old grandson came by to visit! He never comes by! And this is all it took!” and I posted this picture.

Well, one of my cousins, who I don’t really know very well, said, “Well, I’d come visit you too if you gave me money.”

This left me a little befuddled. That was the joke. But there was no exclamation mark or smiley face, or anything, to give me a hint that she actually got the joke, so I wondered what she was thinking.

I used to have a co-worker who felt the need to prove she was smarter than anyone else. That’s the kind of thing she would have said, as if to suggest that she saw a twist that no one else, not even the person who posted the comment, saw.

But I don’t know my cousin well enough to know if that’s what she was thinking, or what.

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elbanditoroso's avatar

I gave up, a long time ago, trying to read peoples’ minds. I have a hard enough time keeping my own mind straight.

So to address your question (and to paraphrase Rhett Butler) – Frankly, I don’t give a damn!

If someone else misunderstands (deliberately or not) what I wrote, well, that’s not really my problem. I don’t waste time thinking about how bollixed up someone else’s mind might be.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Yes, I’m so worried about it I just can’t sleep @elbanditoroso. I’ve lost all desire to eat and all I want to do is sit around and watch Judge Judy. That’s how stressed out the exchange made me.

canidmajor's avatar

Why not assume the best if you don’t know her that well? There’s a lot to be said for deadpan humor.

_Seek_'s avatar

I’d just answer, “That’s okay, I get enough visitors without having to bribe them. You’re welcome to Chopped and Wine night though. Bring wine.”

Dutchess_III's avatar

OK. I’ll assume the best. Not that I was assuming the worst to begin with, @canidmajor. Just one of those things that make you go , “Hmmm.” So I thought I’d share it.

Dutchess_III's avatar

But saying ” “That’s okay, I get enough visitors without having to bribe them. You’re welcome to Chopped and Wine night though. Bring wine.”” would ruin the joke. I mean, the post, in conjunction with the picture implied that I did have to bribe my kids (with $150 no less, which is ridiculous by itself!) to come see me.

_Seek_'s avatar

Yes, but the joke was already ruined by the person who felt they had to explain it.

_Seek_'s avatar

That’s like someone answering the “Orange you glad I didn’t say ‘banana?’ ” joke with “OH! ITS FUNNY BECAUSE ORANGE IS A FRUIT AND BANANA IS A FRUIT TOO!!!1!!ONE!”

LostInParadise's avatar

My guess is that the cousin understood what was going on and was just making a joke.

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