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If a couple is 5 years or more apart in age, and they both experienced the same social changing events, but at different ages, can you spot the nuances that display this?

Asked by Dutchess_III (43745points) November 12th, 2015

Dang I had a hard time forming this question. I picked the age difference of 5 years, because just as one is graduating from high school, the other is just entering high school.

For example, my husband is 8 years older than I am.
Let’s say the women’s lib movement started in 1968 Don’t get picky! I was 10, and he was 18. Obviously the way I processed the changes as a kid was different than the way he, as an “adult,” processed them.

We both experienced the “Boys are smarter than girls” BS on the playground, but by the time he graduated that stereotype was still lingering.

By the time I graduated, on the other hand, that stereotype was long gone, stomped into the ground. I had no doubt, not even a modicum, that on average, men and women are equally intelligent, depending on each individual. Most of the guys my age accept that too, without question.

However, I still see nuances in my husband that suggests he never quite assimilated that change. His attitudes are just a little different from men my exact same age. That old school, “She doesn’t really understand,” still lingers, just a little.

Intellectually he knows that that is BS Especially since he met ME!, but it is just part of the fabric of his upbringing, which are the hardest things to change no matter how much you may want to.

On the other hand, if society stays stagnate for a few decades, people 20 years apart may have the same values.

There has to be a better way of asking this question…But I’m just a girl so…. :}~

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