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White powder? what do i do?

Asked by curiousmonkey (59points) July 23rd, 2008

I have a friend who Ive been friends with for awhile who is really nice an but awhile ago one of my other friends told me they seen white powder fall out of there bag, i don’t know how to ask them, i dont think my freind would ever do something like that, but what can i do about it?

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marinelife's avatar

Ask them. If they are your friend, ask them about it. Don’t pretend nothing happened. Maybe the person who told you is not telling the truth. When you ask your friend, do it in person and look at their face and body language.

Dog's avatar

Warning- you are working off the hearsay of another individual and it could cost you your friendship.

The vague comment from another person could easily have been said to harm your relationship with your friend.

Look very closely at the possible motivation behind this ambiguous statement.

If you approach your friend be sure to do it as a friend letting a friend know that there is gossip afoot.

da455hole's avatar

tell your friend
maybe the friend that told you is lying
so just make sure you tell youre friend before you tell him or her that you saw that because if you dont he or she will think youre a liar and wont be your friend

girlofscience's avatar

Would you be offended if your friend is enjoying some blow? Would you judge him/her? It’s possible that your friend was out having a good time one night and had some left over in his/her bag. This is not necessarily indicative of a problem. In my opinion, using drugs in moderation is perfectly appropriate and can be an excellent experience. If you’d be judgmental of your friend’s use of cocaine, don’t say anything; it would be pointless. If you just feel like asking your friend what he/she is up to and would have a regular conversation about it, go ahead!

ebenezer's avatar

Always keep your eyes peeled for what is going on around you. Don’t judge, but do what is right for you. As dog said, I wouldn’t be so quick to police hearsay.

curiousmonkey's avatar

@marina,dog,girlofscience,da455hole my other friend could have been just seeing things they said themselves that it could not be what they think it is, which i want to believe but part of me thinks it could be true and if they talked to me about i would understand like stuff happens and i know my freind has went through a lot of harsh things in their life but i don’t know know how to bring it up and i want to talk about it with my friend, and tell my friend how that stuff is really bad and there are better ways to solve things without doing harsh things to yourself and regretting it

girlofscience's avatar

Not everyone uses drugs to “solve things.” Drug use can be an enjoyable recreational experience even for those who are perfectly content with every element of their lives. Unless the drug in question is heroin (which is never acceptable to use, in my opinion), I do not agree with deterring others from what they choose to put in their bodies. If you are of the mindset that, by deciding to do drugs, your friend must be trying to solve/fix something, he/she who is using cocaine is likely of a totally different perspective, and pushing your opinion would be fruitless and unpleasant for your friend.

curiousmonkey's avatar

@girlofsceince yes it would be unpleasant but if what I’m saying makes sense too my friend i could be saving their life i think id rather be a little unpleasant, then lose a friend i just don’t know how to ask them

girlofscience's avatar

In the United States, there are only 87 deaths related to cocaine per year. Millions of people in the United States use cocaine. You have to be really over-the-top ridiculous to die from coke. You’re not saving your friend’s life by having this conversation with him/her. You just have a different perspective on drugs, and you don’t appear to be open to the view that your friend may be simply interested in enjoying an experience. Because of this, it seems pointless to ask him/her anything. Envisioning this conversation in my head, I’m cringing, just thinking of how unbearable this conversation would be for your friend. It’s really not pleasant for someone who appreciates the value of drug use (but does not have a problem with any drug) to listen to someone with a completely different opinion try to convince him/her that he/she should not use a drug. If you were willing to understand your friend’s perspective and would have a regular conversation about it (i.e., “So, what’s it like?!”), then it’d be great to share this with your friend. But as things stand, it doesn’t seem like your conversation with him/her would be worthwhile.

Miss_Lys's avatar

@girlofscience- so are you saying its okay to use drugs?

Miss_Lys's avatar

anwyways how it is your friend because that matters too….

Miss_Lys's avatar

i mean how OLD is your friend…..

curiousmonkey's avatar

@miss Lys my friend is in the ages of 14–24

Miss_Lys's avatar

okay if your friends in his/her teens then i think your talk may help, meaning get it through his/her head. that doesnt mean they will stop though. thats of course if it were drugs. but if they are 18 and older i guess all you could do is talk to them they are adults and they’re gonna do what they want with there life. and if there teens then its best they get help before things get bad

Zaku's avatar

I’ve got white powder in my bag, in case I want to sweeten something in the field. You could joke about it and see how they respond. Of course, at that age, they may decide to pretend it’s drugs to mess with you or have fun.

curiousmonkey's avatar

@zaku,thats actually a really good idea, and it could be fake or something,you never know my friend is the type who plays stupid jokes a lot and likes to joke around but i don’t know if they’d go that far, because my friend doesn’t know i suspect anything

girlofscience's avatar

@Miss_Lys: Yes, I am saying it is okay to use drugs.

marinelife's avatar

@girlofscience You are deluding yourself. Your life is too precious to keep doing this. From the NIH

“There is no safe way to use cocaine. Any route of administration can lead to absorption of toxic amounts of cocaine, leading to acute cardiovascular or cerebrovascular emergencies that could result in sudden death. Repeated cocaine use by any route of administration can produce addiction and other adverse health consequences.

As cocaine abuse continues, tolerance often develops. This means that higher doses and more frequent use of cocaine are required for the brain to register the same level of pleasure experienced during initial use. Recent studies have shown that, during periods of abstinence from cocaine use, the memory of the euphoria associated with cocaine use, or mere exposure to cues associated with drug use, can trigger tremendous craving and relapse to drug use, even after long periods of abstinence.

In rare instances, sudden death can occur on the first use of cocaine or unexpectedly thereafter. Cocaine-related deaths are often a result of cardiac arrest or seizures followed by respiratory arrest.

Cocaine is a powerfully addictive drug. Thus, an individual may have difficulty predicting or controlling the extent to which he or she will continue to want or use the drug.

There can be severe medical complications associated with cocaine use. Some of the most frequent complications are cardiovascular effects, including disturbances in heart rhythm and heart attacks; respiratory effects such as chest pain and respiratory failure; neurological effects, including strokes, seizures, and headaches; and gastrointestinal complications, including abdominal pain and nausea.”

girlofscience's avatar

@Marina: I am aware of this information. However, in my life, I have found the positive experiences associated with drug use to exceed the negative health effects tenfold.

nikipedia's avatar

(Threads like this are why I wish we could anonymize ourselves just a little bit, and why I think we should be able to branch off the conversation.)

Life is full of risks. Some of them are worth it. A lot of awful things have happened as a consequence of drug use, but so have a lot of great ones.

Zaku's avatar

@nikipedia: Hmm, yeah maybe Fluther wants a paper bag over head feature for some answers.

Miss_Lys's avatar

@girlofscience: Even at a young age say like teenagers, and are you talking about specific drugs or only some? because drugs like meth can really mess you up.

girlofscience's avatar

@Miss_Lyz: I agree it is not as acceptable for teens—marijuana is okay for teens, but they should probably wait to try most other things until after high school. And, as mentioned in one of my above posts, I’m not talking about all drugs: heroin is never ok to use in my book. I’d likely also discourage meth and crack.

Miss_Lys's avatar

true? but if i recall Marijuana kills your brain cells right? not sure

girlofscience's avatar

@Miss_Lys: I do hope you are kidding. What on earth would make you think that marijuana “kills brain cells”?

scamp's avatar

girlofscience ~good job. Way to corrupt the kiddies. You give some really great advice here. I wish my daughter knew you when she was a teen.~

curiousmonkey , if you are concerned about your friend, talk to her. Tell her “someone” said they saw the white powder, and tell her you are worried about her welfare. You’re a great friend for asking this question on her behalf.

Miss_Lys's avatar

girlofscience: well i dont know i’ve heard it a fews times and it kinda makes sense just like inhaling bad fumes.

Miss_Lys's avatar

girlofscience:im dont want to offend you so dont take this offensive please, its just out of curiosity you dont have to answere, so since you say you think its okay for teens to experience marijuana, would you let your teenage daughter or son use it? because i think you should treat this as if you were dealing with your teenager, it would only make sense.

curiousmonkey's avatar

thanks fort he advise everyone it really helped

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