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Two people love the same person, Love or freindship?

Asked by curiousmonkey (59points) July 24th, 2008

This question is out of curiosity i wanna know what means more to people, If two people love the same person and if the two people had been friends for their whole lives, whats the better choice to follow your heart or stay friends with your friend you’ve known your whole life? What would you honestly do in that situation(you cant have both) and what would be the better choice?Has anyone ever been in that situation and what did you do? How did it turn out?

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Upward's avatar

Stay with the friend. A life long friendship can not be replaced. Love comes and goes…..

delirium's avatar

I don’t see why there would need to be drama. See what the other person (the lurved) thinks. Be an adult. (unless you’re not one. Then realize pretty much everything at your age is guided by sillyness and hormones. It doesn’t make sense. It won’t. You will feel silly when you’re older. There is No Point in giving or asking for advice about who is crushing on whom.)

delirium's avatar

Be an adult meant: I don’t see why a friendship has to be lost at all. This isn’t a black and white issue.

Methos1's avatar

Two different types of love that you are comparing here… you love your friend and you love this other person. The two should not be in conflict with one another. Instead of asking us to decide for you, why don’t you ask yourself which person you are willing to loose?

flameboi's avatar

Friendship :) love is ”more inconstant than the wind

marinelife's avatar

Del has a point here. This would not be totally your choice. If the love object loves you, but has no feelings for your friend, why give that up?

Also, it would depend on what type of love it was. Should a person give up lifelong, soulmate love just because someone else loved their love? I think not.

If, as is far more likely, we are talking about teenage infatuation, then the “be true to your friend” rule should probably prevail.

ninjaxmarc's avatar

If it’s true love, it eventually pan itself out and it will happen.

Friendship is good but maybe you need to be intimately in love with them?

It’s a decision you’ll have to make, experience it and learn from it.

They say true lovers are the best of friends

lovelyy's avatar

ninjaxmarc said it.

curiousmonkey's avatar

to everyone who commented there is no teenage anything i think you misunderstood my question, i was wondering what people would pick of they had to like what people think is more important, of curiosity only

The_Inquisitor's avatar

Curiousmonkey meant, that she wanted to see what other people would do in this case.

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