Why do I attract obsessive/clingy men?

Asked by travelbabe24 (262) December 24th, 2015 from iPhone

So, I’ve only had 3 boyfriends. I’m 20. The first guy was a bad boy (never making that mistake again), and the last 2 guys were really nice, but they got a little out of hand. They would guilt me into seeing them everyday or else they would “commit suicide”. One guy got jealous if I hung out with family instead of him. Both ended up stalking me after I broke it off. So you get the idea.

I’m not interested in dating right now, but it got me wondering. Why do I attract clingy guys? It makes me really uneasy when men even compliment me now because that’s how my exes started out. Just nice guys complimenting me a lot.

A little about me. I’m introverted. But I’ve been told that I’m always smiling and laughing. Strangers have told my family and friends upon first meeting me that they like me and I’m really sweet. I’m independent mostly. Hobbies include running, hiking, choir, volunteer work, and studying. (I study a lot, trying to get into med school someday). I’m very family oriented. Not trying to sound conceited, but I have been told and I think I’m beautiful. But not your Megan fox sexy beautiful, more of a romance novel sweet beautiful.

But like I said, I’m introverted. I’m very quiet at first. I’ll talk a bit but I’m mostly smiling the whole time. I can be a people pleaser- really trying to work on that. Don’t have much friends because I Can’t really relate to people my age (I’m not into the party scene, most people my age don’t want to go on a hike.)

I’ve noticed the traits in clingy men so I know who to avoid, but how can I attract a strong independent man? With his own thoughts, own goals, own character etc.? I don’t want another guy doing everything just to please me.

Thanks all:)