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How do I get rid of THIS type of crush?

Asked by kitty_b3 (4points) February 13th, 2016

There is this guy who I hung out with gym one time and a week later I had a dream that we were in school and the teacher said the boys could take off their shirts and so the boys did and the boy who I talked to in gym was across from me and he did but then I woke up and started thinking about him a lot. In class I can’t look directly at him but I can still talk to him and look at him everywhere else. We chat sometimes at the locker about gym but that’s pretty much it. To me the bad parts about him is that he is not in shape and he doesn’t really have a lot of friends. The good part is that he’s smart, he’s tall, strong, and likes to read. I don’t want to be his girlfriend or anything so why can’t I look at him?

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CWOTUS's avatar

Welcome to Fluther.

Assuming you’re even old enough to be on this site… Why would you want to get rid of that kind of attraction? To be (I presume) a young woman with an attraction to a tall, strong, smart guy who likes to read seems kind of ideal. So he’s not in the best of shape. Okay, I get that, but you hung out with him in the gym, so apparently he’s working on that.

I don’t see the problem.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

I’d say you can’t look at him because despite what you’re saying, some part of you is attracted to him. And that’s fine! As @CWOTUS said, if he’s a nice guy, he’s smart, he’s tall and strong and he likes to read. He sounds like a catch to me. Perhaps he’s shy and that’s why he doesn’t have lots of friends. Not having lots of friends at school doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with him. He could be a wonderful person if people would take the time to get to know him.

Why don’t you just try to be his friend and see what happens? Maybe that’s all you will ever be. That can’t be a bad thing. However, you might find that he’s a really special person. Give him a chance.

gorillapaws's avatar

I agree with @Earthbound_Misfit. Just try to be friends and see how things turn out. You sound very young, so just know it’s COMPLETELY NORMAL to have mixed feelings about people you may like and feel confused. Take things slowly, be cool with lots of different people, and you’ll be fine.

Seek's avatar

Remember: that boy won’t be awkward and 15 forever. He could be like the kid who played Neville Longbottom in Harry Potter.


johnpowell's avatar

Roll with the crush, maybe it will work out. If it doesn’t you didn’t have to do anything special to destroy the crush.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Not having too many friends is not always a bad thing. When it comes to the ladies in my life I always pick smart over sexy. I have a thing for the mousy librarian type, always have. It’s more than just appearance you are attracted to and that’s a good thing. You seem to be starting to find your thing for the strong, smart, introvert. Now stop talking to us and go talk to him.

skfinkel's avatar

Liking someone is not just a list of qualities; it’s something special, and not always easy to name, that attracts you. However, the qualities you list are ones that are appealing to lots of people, maybe even you. It matters not a whit what other people think.

chinchin31's avatar

Having alot of friends does not prove anything. What if you have alot of friends but they are fake friends for just a show on facebook or social media. ?

Get to know him, you might be surprised.

Maybe he does not have a lot of friends because he is genuine.

It is difficult to have a lot of friends if you keep it real with everyone.

IF he had no friends at all then maybe you should be worried.

Most people only have a few REAL friends.

Especially in high school popular people have alot of fake friends and 5 to 10 years from now they won’t even be speaking.

Just look at that reality show ” The HIlls” , they were all very popular in high school, how many of them still talk to each other now since the show ended ?

Would you rather date the smart quiet guy that will respect you or would you rather date the popular jock that will hook up with you and dump you.

If you don’t want your life to end up on the show 16 and pregnant you should go for the smart quiet guys that have their head on their shoulders.

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