Have you ever thought you were not good enough for someone?

No.

Thinking so little of yourself is a recipe for disaster. You never know if a woman is going to react negatively until you ask the question. By being afraid to ask, you take yourself out of the competition from the beginning.

Are you familiar with the baseball metaphor: you’ll never get a hit if you don’t go up to the plate and take a swing.

Well, I never imagined my wife would have anything to do with me after our first date but she did.
My first serious girlfriend was like that too but more on an intellectual level. No harm in just asking.

I’m sorry, but really it sounds so clinical and impersonal that you keep saying “females” instead of “women”. Are we sheep or aardvarks? We are, believe it or not, people and like being treated as such.

And yes, of course I have felt that way from time to time, I imagine most people do.

Not for years now.

@canidmajor From a guy’s perspective the two words are interchangeable and neither imply any derogatory meaning but some people want to find fault where there is none.

@ARE_you_kidding_me: Actually from some guys’ perspectives that may be so, and you may not intend any offense, but frankly, this is a question from a guy who wants to know about connecting with women. Some women are annoyed by that.

@canidmajor…..and they frankly are ones that all guys should stay away from. #enjoyyourcats

I have dated a few levels above myself a many times. I’m not a pretty man. Legitimate comparisons to E-T have been made. But I am hilarious and a vigorous advocate of oral sex.

I’m not even sure what I am typing now. Now I am just horny. BRB…

All too often.

No. Not ever.

Oh, dear, @ARE_you_kidding_me, my first post was meant as a gently rendered bit of advice to a young man whose history here seems to indicate that really would like to establish a quality relationship. I’m not sure why you respond in such a hostile manner. Why should he avoid women that like to be treated with a certain amount of respect, simply because they’re not to your taste?

@canidmajor if a woman is annoyed by that then she is too uptight and not generally laid back enough to be dating material. It’s a que that is repulsive to males when we hear women get “offended” over almost nothing. It says “I’ll nag you to death and try to make you feel guilty for being male.” It tells us we are dealing with an emotionally damaged, high maintenance person with a senseof entitlement. This kind of woman will wreck the self esteem of a vulnerable and impressionable young man. Much, much better for them to find a female with confidence, insight and respect. That’s not someone who will get confrontational by being called a female. If someone is being demeaning to women then sure, it’s warranted. Simply calling women female is not. I don’t think being called male is demeaning in any way.