Do you have adult children living at home with you?

Yes. Yes, alas, yes.

Bitch away, my dear. I’m with you.

And people wonder why Mrs Squeeky and I chose not to have children.
My younger brother and sister still live with my mother,and my mother loves it.

I’m an adult living with my parents and sometimes I cry when my family starts scutinizing my private life. They seem to think that I only need to hide bad things from them, they just can’t draw the line between “hiding bad things” and privacy. They even begin to tell me what I should do with my Facebook account lately! That’s one of the reasons why I take refuge here.

LOL.. My sister took me grocery shopping the other day. When we were in the parking lot after shopping I explained for the first time that I got a place in Eugene that is super cheap and will be going back. And she also learned that I will be homeless for three months.

So she wants me to stay with her for three months even though they don’t really have the space. She said she would ship her 15 year old twins of to live in Santa Cruz with her oldest son and I could have their bedroom.

I can sort of get why she wants me around. I get into a mode where I will clean until I pass out.

I have two adult daughters living here. We have quite a long house with two living areas, so there is enough space for us not to get under each other’s feet. I really don’t mind them being here. I like it. I think if they were under my feet, I’d feel very different.

I just read @johnpowell‘s last sentence. Did you want to move in with me?

@Earthbound_Misfit :: It is odd. I am a total slob. Until I am not. And when that switch flips I will spend two hours cleaning the stove with a toothbrush.

How you are single, I do not know. :-)

Yes I do. But we all give each other privacy. Privacy is never the issue with us. We argue about other matters from time to time.

A friend of mine has her two young adult sons living with her and her husband. One son goes to college, the other one fucks off, sleeps all day, has friends over, demands gas money, etc. The parents give half hearted lectures about how he needs to get a job and nothing changes.

@SQUEEKY2: I bet even though @dammitjanetfromvegas and others on this thread have similar issues with their children, they still don’t regret having children and the positives outweigh the negatives.

Nope. One lives three thousand miles to the west and the other three thousand miles to the east. What did I do wrong – or right??

Nope, don’t know if I could deal with it either.

Isn’t it hard for children to find a job that pays enough to live on their own these days?

Have you (or can you) tell him how you feel?

I am the adult living at home with parents. It’s actually my husband and I living with his parents. Feel free to bitch away, it’s very hard. Hard not just for us, but I’m sure for them too.

Privacy is a big deal, I completely get that. If there was just a door on the hallway to the secondary bedrooms I would be so much happier. Going from the bathroom to my room is a pain in the neck. An extra door would solve the problem.

Also, my inlaws are angry with each other constantly, I’m sure they rather be angry without us around. My husband and I bicker a lot lately, I’m sure it makes my inlaws uncomfortable since they don’t bicker, especially my MIL.

Our room doesn’t have enough space for everything so we have spilled over into the other extra bedroom and still the place looks a little trashed. I would assume it drives my inlaws crazy. Not to mention we have some boxes in the garage.

We have been here about a month. My limit will be 3 months I think. I’m not sure what their limit is. Knowing them they would never ask us to leave, the would just do silent things that show more and more their frustration. We are giving them money to help out, which they take under verbal protest.

We had been thinking we would have them live with use one day, but this was great practice, we know that would be extremely difficult. If we take care of them we now know we need to buy a smaller home so we can buy them something separate, or a house with some sort of guest house.

Well I’m an adult and I’m also pretty childish…

My son is taking a year off of college and living at home while he works full-time and applies to transfer to a different school. Given the state of the economy and job market, I am fully prepared to set a bedroom aside for him for many years to come.

It is simultaneously great and awful to have him here. Awful is a bit of an exaggeration. I am trying to focus on the good, as I will miss him terribly when he resumes college and is many states away (for the first time ever!).

I am surprised by how much energy he still requires from me. I’m glad we’re close and he is comfortable talking to me… but he still wants a level of attention that surprises me. And I never get to be home alone. But he’s helpful. When asked. Usually.

It’s a real mixed bag.

No. But I sure miss my kids when they were legitimately at home because they were < 18. I miss my babies,

No. My daughter is 28 and has never needed to come back home since she launched at 21. She is doing great, landed a great job with an international medical supply Co. about 15 months ago, has a great live in BF of 2 years who works in the tech industry, they both just bought brand new cars in the last few weeks and it is now I, mama bird, who after years of being stable and solvent has fallen into the grim abyss after tanking in the recession between 2010–13. I have been living with house mates for the last 3 years and hate it, after decades of having my own home and being extremely independent.

Now, my worst fear is that I will end up a burden to my daughter, something I try to avoid thinking about but it is very humbling, not being in the parental seat of solvency anymore and fearing you might need help from your children. Gah!

My son, 20 & my daughter, 16, the wife would argue that i’m her third adult “child” & i’d probably agree

My kids are in their 30’s now and both are independent.

I have had sons, their wives, grandsons, and now one with his wife, living with me off and on for many years. There was only one time when it was a burden, my youngest son’s wife is unbearable. They were here for about two years.

As soon as Sonny got a job, we bought a house for him, and they moved in along with her mother and grandmother. They now have two sons, and all five of them still live there. Sonny has worked at different jobs over the past nine years since then, with many months in between that we had to make the payments on the house and two cars, which are all in our name.

Did for awhile, but we got along great. We respected our privacy and had boundaries.
If “they” won’t leave you…then consider YOU leave…for a few hours and enjoy pastimes.
Nature, photography,painting,music or whatever interests that you have always wanted to try but never did.
Sometimes crowding is a motivation to move….so get moving…do things outside of the home environment to excite your senses and apprciation for life.