What can I do about my best friend?

We’ve been close friends for what seems like forever, and he is the one person that I have to call when I need someone to talk to. I have lots of friends, many that would listen and help me if I need it, but for some reason its different with him. I’m one of those guys you go to when you need advice, and he just has this way of making people love him. Somehow, that means we both just get each other.

But his life agenda is getting f***ed up, and mine… Isn’t. I try to see him as much as I can, but we’ll go through spells where he won’t call me back for a few weeks. I don’t know how it affects him, but it makes me bottle everything up until I just go numb.

His last two girlfriends tell me that the problem is that he is ashamed of himself. They say he feels guilty for being a bad friend, and that he feels he doesn’t deserve my friendship. No matter how many times I tell him that all I want is to talk to him, he doesn’t call back.

Is that really the problem, that he feels bad? Is it something else? I can live without him, but I just love him too much. I have friends that have given up on him, that say he is in too deep and that, while they still love him, they can’t deal with worrying about him. Should I give up?

I know this is too personal to get a real answer, but I want to know what Fluther thinks. He hasn’t called me back since he broke up with his girlfriend two weeks ago.

And please, no gay jokes. That is not what I need.