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Nevada83's avatar

Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 30 months now. I feel energized. Should we take the next step?

Asked by Nevada83 (828points) May 6th, 2016

I can’t imagine being with anyone else…

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Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

We can’t answer this question for you. What stage are you at now? What does the ‘next step’ mean to you? We can perhaps give some guidance, but you need to tell us more. How old are you? Have you discussed living together or marriage? Do you have jobs? Do you want children? What is your relationship like? There are so many things you need to think about before you take a relationship to the next stage.

anniereborn's avatar

What does he think about it?

anniereborn's avatar

Doing a bit of research, as I like to do, I am gonna guess you are still in school. This other topics suggests it . Therefore my suggestion to you is to take it slow.

janbb's avatar

I’m not sure what you mean by “the next step” – engagement or sex?

jca's avatar

Whatever “the next step” is, your boyfriend has a say and a part in the matter, so the discussion should be with him.

Cruiser's avatar

Feeling energized is good. The question I would advise you to ask yourself is….do you feel safe….do you feel protected….do you trust this man without any question in your mind what-so-ever??

Bonus is are you financially secure and least important but IMHO important enough to ask as it will matter….can you tolerate his relatives and family members.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Oh my. I have to take to heart what @anniereborn pointed out. From your other question you sound a bit immature and not really ready for the rigors of a truly committed relationship. Not if you’re going to hash over tiny things, like what this guy looking at you means, or that guy looking at you means.

CWOTUS's avatar

No. A flat “no”.

If you have to ask, then you’re not ready. And that’s my final answer. This is not to say ‘never’ or that you can’t possibly ever be ready. Just … give it the time it deserves.

kritiper's avatar

Don’t push it! Are you trying to scare him away?? Be satisfied with things the way they are.

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