Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?

I’m holding the breasts of the housemaid & can hear the wife coming, I really need to let go :(

@ucme That must be very hard to let go of… lol!

Yes. I am holding onto the fact that I didn’t have any problems with my teeth and bite until I had a bad repair of an old bond. It threw my whole bite off. Just yesterday I let my periodontist file down 4 healthy teeth that never, for over 30 years since the original bond (which happened when I was in 6th grade) caused me any problems. I have been living with my mouth hurting and probably causing stress in those teeth for about 5 years now.

I have a really hard time letting go of the fact that a dentist caused me a problem. The tooth has been redone twice, and still not good like the first time when I was a little girl.

It took one step forward I guess, because I let them file my teeth. I really wanted orthodonture to move my teeth back in position. My periodontist says it’s impossible the teeth shifted. Bullshit! I know exactly what happened.

I’d be better if I just moved completely forward. I’m not good at it with health related things.

@Tbag This is true ;-}

In my infinite maturity now I have learned to let go much more easily than when I was younger. Coming to terms with the ultimate truth that everything is of a temporary and impermanent nature, and really getting this on a deep, intrinsic level is what’s needed. People, places, things, jobs, lifestyle, on & on.
I’m have gone through some hard times the past few years and they continue to one degree or another and do have moments where I mourn for my old life but, I realize it really is not about my old life, monetary assets, etc. it is more about mourning a sense of control after being the captain of my own ship forever. In general, I move on pretty easily. I especially move on from people and relationships easily.

There are reasons and seasons to everything and change is the only constant. learning to live with uncertainty and change is important, even if you have to go kicking and screaming for a little while. lol

Sometimes holding on is all we have left of something that we desperately wanted not to be awful. It was awful, the memory is awful, we would benefit by letting it go, but the letting go is perceived to be more painful than the awful memory.

Yes, I am holding onto something that I should let go.

I’m holding onto:

FUUUUUUCK YOU you STUPID FUCKING COMPANY and your ZERO TRANSPARENCY if you actually gave a shit about us you would have told us money was tight and then we could have been SEARCHING FOR JOBS this whole time instead of getting abruptly thrown out on our asses. You call us family and then throw us out with no warning? You disproportionately lay off women and young people? You laid off a guy who’s having a baby in two weeks? FUCK YOU.

FUUUUUUUUUUUCK YOU random Venezuelan bitch for flirting with my boyfriend when you know goddamn well that he is my boyfriend and you have a boyfriend too. You stupid fucking home-wrecking cunt if you ever show up here I will gouge your eyes out.

Woo that felt good :)

@Mariah: My dogs barked at that!

It is hard to let go when you love someone so bad and they don’t love you back…

@mariah – please change your job asap..))

Woo Hoo @Mariah!!! Sic ‘em! I’ve got a few FUCK YOU’S of my own! lol

Well yeah, but there’s no pill to make you forget about life and enjoy it lol.

I hate to admit that, but right now I’m still holding on an annoyingly clingy friend. Not that I want to keep her, but she keeps coming back to me. I try everything I can think of, hiding her from Facebook chat, stopping liking and commenting on her stuff as if it doesn’t exist (even photos that we recently took together), stopping sharing about my life and letting her do all the talking without replying… But GOD SHE JUST DOESN’T GET THE MESSAGE! I could have shouted straight in her face that she is too toxic I can’t be her friend anymore, but after analyzing her behavior from when we first met until now, I found out that she has a lot of signs of a sociopath, so a direct encounter may not do me good.

But at least I have drawn a plan to cut her off safely. Hope this time she will leave.

@Mariah Is the Venezuelan still at it? Or are you still simmering from your boyfriend’s past lapse in judgement?

Yes, feelings of both anger and regret about my long-past marriage. What’s stopping me is that we now live in different cities, far out of each other’s orbits. And even if we could sit down and talk, I doubt we could do so more rationally and honestly now than when we were together. Too much baggage between us.

@stanleybmanly I have no idea if she’s still at it as I have vowed to myself and him not to ever snoop again and I haven’t asked him about it since the whole thing has been a bit overshadowed by me losing my job. Taking one thing at a time right now…

Yes, be it tangible or intangible. Some are worthy of keeping, like dancing to Mom’s favourite music while holding her hand as she was dying.

With the ones that just need to be moved past, it is easier said than done. Even if I have “built a bridge and gotten over it”, logically, there are a couple that still rear its ugly head in dream state.

I have a lot of mason jars. Like, a lot. And I’m moving, so I should get rid of (some of?) them. But I haven’t.

@Mariah Now that was a metal post!

You picked a good profession, another job will be there.

I am holding on to the idea that maybe one day my only sibling
and I will reconnect and get to spend the later parts of our lives
getting to know one another again. I miss him so much but he
was so mean to my parents when they were alive with his Dr.
in front of his name and no time for anyone not in “His” circle
of friends. I think I could forgive if he really wanted to have me
in his life….but actually I don’t think it really bothers him that his
little sister wants a relationship with him but she is not in his circle
of friends. But you know what they say…“Karma’s a bitch.”

Fluther Lurve.