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ibstubro's avatar

Do you have to have the last word?

Asked by ibstubro (18714points) June 2nd, 2016

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Pachy's avatar

In my younger days I always had to have the last word—at work and at home. Looking back, I’m not very proud of that.

JeSuisRickSpringfield's avatar

Yes, and that word is Zyzzyva. ~

JLeslie's avatar

When I was younger I was more like that. I think because I came from a fighting family and they functioned that way. My family also has some very smart, very educated (both self and formal) people in it, so they tend to believe that they know what they are talking about. They have been wrong more than once. Either because science changed or they just didn’t have their information straight. Once I realized this, I realized it’s way easier to be wrong than one might think. Lots of grey area. I also learned that both people in the fight can be right.

I don’t care about being right or winning, but I do care about learning and correct information. I see that if I look up information some people perceive this as me needing to be right or having the last word. With those people I tend to just let them “win.” I stopped caring if they live their life with wrong information. That’s the thing, it’s often tied in with not caring for me. It obviously depends what the topic is. For some things a difference of opinion has nothing to do with not caring, it’s just a difference of opinion.

ibstubro's avatar

At least you can be proud of your good memory, @Pachy!

Not to be confused with Zyzzyzus, @JeSuisRickSpringfield

Your still young at heart, @JLeslie. Trust us. ~

ibstubro's avatar

I mean, it’s rude not to reply when you’re spoken to, isn’t it?

Seek's avatar

If I’m right, absolutely.

marinelife's avatar

I finally learned as an adult that knowing my own truth was enough. I didn’t have to convince others.

thorninmud's avatar

The irony is that the people most likely to be bothered by this are other last-worders.

JeSuisRickSpringfield's avatar

@ibstubro I’d respond, but I’m sleeping. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

ibstubro's avatar

And why bother to begin with, if you’re wrong, @Seek?

Hmmm. I’m not convinced of that, yet, @marinelife.

Yeah, last-worders are the worstest, @thorninmud.

Aww. Here’s a lullaby for you, @JeSuisRickSpringfield

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

Depends on the importance of the discussion to me. If I’m not sure of myself or I don’t have an interest in the outcome of the discussion, no. If I believe the subject is important and I have a strong opinion, then yes I will push the issue.

ibstubro's avatar

I think your participation in a discussion automatically means you have “an interest in the outcome”, @FireMadeFlesh?

Mimishu1995's avatar

Only in a group discussion when people need to find a solution, but even then I don’t even notice that. Anyone with a good idea can go.

jca's avatar

It depends. Usually now, in real life, I’ll stop and let the person think what they want. On the internet, I’ll usually stop, too.

My attitude toward opinions is I have mine, you have yours, and that’s ok. No need to argue about them. If it’s something factual, I’ll try to provide proof and usually won’t even argue unless I have proof first.

I think as I get older, I’m more like “whateverrrrrr.”

ibstubro's avatar

Yes, but when do you determine you have the best idea, @Mimishu1995?

Are you saying you’re jaded, @jca?

I’m sure you can expound on that simple answer, @cookieman!

Dutchess_III's avatar

This was one of the final questions asked on Wis.dm. :(

Of course. They won’t understand how wrong they are if they get the last word.

ibstubro's avatar

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt? @Dutchess_III? ~

Very well, @cookieman.

jca's avatar

@ibstubro: Older and wiser. Life is too short to engage in pointless arguments.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

No, I just need to go far enough to make sure the wrong last word said doesn’t cause a good person or situation to end up wrong.

Zaku's avatar

We already have some Yes answers… I wonder if this thread will ever end, or if the mods are going to have to shut down. ;-)

JLeslie's avatar

I hope this link works for having the last word.

cookieman's avatar

Well, if you say so.

Strauss's avatar

We’ve been married almost 30 years, and I’ve learned a lot about diplomacy when having disagreements with my wife. Even when we’re discussing something she feels strongly about, I always have the last word, even if it is something like, “You’re absolutely correct!”

Dutchess_III's avatar

^^Yes you do.

Strauss's avatar

I do hoo-doo. Do you?

I just had to check. We’re in “Social”.

ucme's avatar

I neither have to, want to or need to, but…

Dutchess_III's avatar

Then don’t do.

ucme's avatar

So go do, that voodoo, that you do, sohhhhhhhhhh wellllllllllllllllll

dxs's avatar

Remind me of the babe?

Mimishu1995's avatar

@cookieman I said I don’t even notice. I just say an idea, then if everyone sees fit they agree.

Is that my last word here? Certainly, because it’s the latest post. ~

Strauss's avatar

But what exactly is the last word?

Mimishu1995's avatar

The last word is the last word. The last word you see. Now go away and give me my last word title! ~

Brian1946's avatar

In a strictly temporal context, the last written word is the word at the end of this sentence, and it will be the last word until the next one is written.

ibstubro's avatar

I don’t know what the big deal is?

Brian1946's avatar

And the last word is still “is”.

Mimishu1995's avatar

Now it’s “word”.

Strauss's avatar

Are you sure it is? Oh, my word!

dxs's avatar

You’re all wrong.

ibstubro's avatar

Your right, @dxs!

dxs's avatar

Am I?

Strauss's avatar

Say goodnight, Mimi!

Mimishu1995's avatar

No, I say “good nap”.

ibstubro's avatar

Well, I vow not to rest until I know that the last word is a good word.

Strauss's avatar

You mean the last word is “good?”

ibstubro's avatar

I’m positive.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I’m negative.

Brian1946's avatar

I’m gonna exhume a dead thread and get in a buncha last words. ;-p

BellaB's avatar

the honey bee

the honey bee is sad and cross
and wicked as a weasel
and when she perches on you boss
she leaves a little measle

http://donmarquis.org/thehoneybee.htm

ibstubro's avatar

A wonderful bird is the pelican;
His beak can hold more than his belican.
He can hold in his beak
Enough food for a week,
Though I’m damned if I know how the helican!

Dixon Lanier Merritt

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

@ibstubro To varying degrees. The importance of the discussion in my judgement is directly proportional to the effort I will put into having the last word.

jca's avatar

Word.

BellaB's avatar

Last word

dance sideways
crave Kensington Market to lift warm spring
life is blue
you is drifting smoothly

dance if I fall

somebody tall
never you.

link

Mimishu1995's avatar

Please take me home with you.

ibstubro's avatar

Careful what you wish for, @Mimishu1995!

I was willing to give you that one, @Yetanotheruser. I love that song and video enough to remain speechless.

Strauss's avatar

@ibstubro So that means I get the last word?

At least until there’s a JBM!

Mimishu1995's avatar

I’m not dead yet.

ibstubro's avatar

I just don’t understand the compulsion.
It’s just so foreign (no offense @Mimishu1995) to me.

BellaB's avatar

<back-stroking by>

BellaB's avatar

now see what you’ve done

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yUwW108ITzw

_______

earworm

ibstubro's avatar

I’ve never heard that song before, @BellaB
and never shall again

BellaB's avatar

ahhh Bay City Rollers weakness

ibstubro's avatar

I can’t even look at the Bay City Rollers directly on.

Isn’t it rude to not reply to a post? It’s not having to have the last word, it’s ingrained politeness!

Strauss's avatar

@ibstubro ^^ You are so correct!

BellaB's avatar

<mulls posting another clip from the tartan connection ... or maybe KC and the sunshine band>

ibstubro's avatar

Well, you have the knack!
@BellaB

Mimishu1995's avatar

Don’t want to be impolite so here I am.

BellaB's avatar

that wasn’t enough to put you off?

ibstubro's avatar

Are you putting me on??

ibstubro's avatar

like I really care

BellaB's avatar

wait <what?>

ibstubro's avatar

Ah!
I get it!

Strauss's avatar

Better get rid of it!~

Mimishu1995's avatar

<Getting out of an exploding ruin>

ibstubro's avatar

Lemme give you a hand, @Mimishu1995

josie's avatar

Don’t have to, but it’s more fun to

BellaB's avatar

Thought I had a chance with the site wobbles

ibstubro's avatar

Um, sorry, @Mimishu1995.
That’s not water

Strauss's avatar

That’s not water…OOPS!

Is this the thread that never ends?
It just goes on and on my friend!
Now @ibstubro started it, now knowing what it was
And we’ll continue posting ‘til forever, just because…
repeat from first line ad infinitum ad nauseum…

BellaB's avatar

that is something to ponder

ibstubro's avatar

Obviously, we have given it a lot of thought.

BellaB's avatar

perhaps if you had some quiet time you’d come up with a clearer answer

Strauss's avatar

But we still haven’t reached a conclusion.

Mimishu1995's avatar

Conclusion: this thread must go on.

Strauss's avatar

If I had to have the last word it would have to be Slangwhanger!

BellaB's avatar

buncha whackadoodles

ibstubro's avatar

Now, now. No pettifoggers, please.

BellaB's avatar

foghorn leghorn

Strauss's avatar

Referendum?

ibstubro's avatar

Referee dumb.

Strauss's avatar

Free-dom

Mimishu1995's avatar

This is going to be the new Cool Word thread.

ibstubro's avatar

That needles me.

BellaB's avatar

I can see you when you do that

Strauss's avatar

Well, don’t look then!

BellaB's avatar

tinted windows would be a good idea

ibstubro's avatar

Drone on, why dontcha.

BellaB's avatar

row row row your boat

Dutchess_III's avatar

3, 6, 9.
The goose drank wine.
The monkey spit tabacca on da street car line.
Line broke.
Monkey got choke.
And they all went to heaven in a little row boat.

Strauss's avatar

Three little angels, all dressed in white,
Tried to get to heaven on the tail of a kite.
The kite tail broke and down they all fell,
Instead of goin’ to heaven, they all went to…

(repeat for “two” and “one”, then next verse)

Three little devils, all dressed in red,
Tried to get to heaven on a red red thread.
The red thread broke and down they all fell,
Instead of goin’ to heaven, they all went to…

(repeat again for “two” and “one”, then, at the end of devil verse 3, sing…)

…Instead of goin’ to heaven, they all went to bed!

ibstubro's avatar

To his friend, Ned said, rather blue,
“My wife Edith just told me we’re through,
For she says I’m too fat.”
And his friend told him that,
“You can’t have your cake and Edith, too.”

Dutchess_III's avatar

Remember when Edith got menopause and she yelled, “Damn it!” at Archie and ran out of the room??!!

ibstubro's avatar

Norman Lear is 90-something, and still at it.

You’d think he’d done enough damage.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Didn’t he invent LSD?

Strauss's avatar

It was his brother Timothy. But do you know what I’ve heard about Timothy Lear? He’s dead!

ibstubro's avatar

Yeah, but his daughters Goneril, Regan, and Cordelia are still pimpin the hood.

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