If a man really likes anal sex with a women does that mean he might be secretly gay?

Anal sex is more pleasurable to men when their partners have vaginas that aren’t tight enough for them.

No. It doesn’t mean that at all.

Secondly, normal sex is whatever two consenting adults decide upon.

If you don’t like anal sex or its painful for you then tell him so and you shouldn’t feel obligated just because he’s pressuring you.

What would indicate that your bf is gay (or bi) would be if he prefers sex with other men rather than women. That is the only reliable indicator of sexual orientation.

No. When a man and a woman have sex, it is heterosexual sex no matter what parts go where. Some guys are just into anal (even those without any “tightness” concerns). Liking anal sex doesn’t make someone gay anymore than liking cunnilingus makes them a lesbian.

No, it doesn’t mean he might be secretly gay. Butt stuff ≠ gay. Lots of straight people have anal sex. Some lesbians have anal sex (they use toys). And guess what? Lots of gay men don’t engage in anal sex. Drop your prejudices: stop thinking of vaginal sex as “normal,” and stop thinking of anal sex as “gay.” And if your boyfriend doesn’t respect your needs or your wishes when it comes to sex, drop him too.

… Is this an actual question? Jesus christ.

Let me guess, because it’s anal you are still a virgin too?

Maybe you are ballooning. I had a GF that did and then it was sort of a hot dog in a hallway situation.

Agreed with most here. Doesn’t mean he’s gay. It may mean that you two are sexually incompatible though. I really like butt stuff with girls. I’m definitely a ‘butt’ man. Not all girls are into it. And I dont stay with a girl who isn’t. It’s not that I need anal all the time. But I like to do butt stuff with a girl as often as she’ll let me. I Usually don’t pressure them too much. It’s a every now and then thing. A special thing. Its not for everyone. When I’m first getting to know a girl sexually, I definitely have a list of things that I want from the relationship. If the girl won’t meet those desires, then we’re wasting our time. Girls should have a list too, most do. Talking openly and honestly about sex in a relationship is healthy. Two consenting adults should be able to figure out what they like and or tolerate sexually. If they like different things, then they can try what each other like . Or just break up. Sex is important in a relationship, and it’s wrong not to think so. If one person in a relationship isn’t getting what they want, they’re likely to try to get it somewhere else. That can lead to cheating, STDs, hurt feelings etc. Your list is important, and some things on my list are non negotiatible. Some things I just won’t try, others I won’t do without. Part of getting to know a potential mate , is the process of sexual exploration.
Perhaps you should seek a different partner if this is such a ‘pain in the ass.’( pun intended )

Or maybe the way he goes about it or the position could be changed to make it more enjoyable for you. Sometimes, time of day is important with anal. My last girlfriend and I learned not to do it in the morning. Otherwise, I could at least ask. Worst she could say was no…
That being said, if he makes you wear guys clothing , and men’s cologne ,while watching gay porn , while you do anal…...He might be gay.

But again, liking anal sex as a man doesn’t make him gay. Might make him normal….

If a girl likes her boyfriend to go down on her does that make her a lesbian?

Why not ask him if he would like to receive anal from you.

If he only wants anal and your are not into anal, just explain that you are not that into it. It doesn’t mean he’s gay. There is a lot of porn around that focuses on anal and I think now it has become a standard of what people feel they should be doing.

I once asked a Doctor friend of mine regards anal sex and the anatomy and he said that obviously we are not made structurally that way to make anal sex easy. Some men don’t get that, particularly if they are of the mindset it is the new norm.

Just my humble opinion, well performed oral sex blows away anal every time and can be every bit as tight and even tighter if so desired. Your boyfriend doesn’t sound gay to me…he sounds manipulative and selfish.

If he likes anal sex with a woman, he is not gay.

Your boyfriend doesn’t sound gay to me…he sounds manipulative and selfish.

No. He sounds sexually incompatible with you.

The muscular structure of the anus is different from that of the vagina.

Why just have chocolate when you can have chocolate and vanilla?

…Perhaps I shouldn’t use the word “vanilla.”

I read the comments above, your prude is showing.

Those questioning the caliber of the guys manhood:

Are you doing your kegels?

I’ve had lovers that sucked it in so hard I feared we might need to go to the ER.

I am sure if he likes it with you – he is not gay.
Most men would prefer it but not everyone has it hard enough to do it.
So they just keep it the vaginal way.
If yours is strong enough – he would insist like anyone would!
You have to find the way to learn how to or find another guy.
Good luck anyway!

If he is the passer and you are the wide receiver, he is not gay or even leaning to it. There are many other reasons guys like to bugger their females.