Have you ever felt alone and want to be alone at the same time?

Trust me, you’re not alone feeling this.

It makes complete sense. It is not an uncommon feeling.

There is nothing wrong with solitude, but we often want to be with people. Humans are social animals. We like to be in groups most of the time. Those 2 feelings of wanting and simultaneously not wanting to be with others are not mutually exclusive. We are also complex animals, and our feelings can be mixed.

It is a very good sign you recognized this in yourself.

Yes, I’ve felt this way at times: I’d like to have somebody around, but I don’t want to deal with them.

Human beings are adept at harboring conflicting feelings. Good for art and literature, sometimes not so good for relationships.

^^Haha. “I’d like to have somebody around, but I don’t want to deal with them” So true. That’s what the St. Andrew’s cross are ball gag is for.

The weirder thing, is that we expect ourselves to make sense and be consistent and have reasons that make sense to us, for our thoughts and feelings. People have a lot more going on than one thing happening for logical reasons.

Yes!! This is often me when I’m upset. I’ll want so desperately to be alone with my thoughts, but at the same time, I want someone to sit beside me and talk to me! Very strange feeling!

Yes I do. I am a loner. I do not want to go out and make friends. I struggle going to work as I don’t know how to fit in. But I sometimes get fearfully lonely as to what the future holds.

A lot of my hobbies take my full concentration but I hate being alone. One of the best solutions for this conundrum I’ve found is to find a buddy who can also keep himself busy, and then we hang out in the same room together each doing our own thing. Don’t even have to talk – just be near each other.