(NSFW) Is porn a problem for men?

It certainly can be if it’s use becomes excessive obsessive and compulsive. Fantasy is not reality and reality should always come first. Lots of porn addicts out there and it isn’t any different than any drug that one uses to alter their emotional state, calm anxiety or lift their mood. The dopamine flood from a state of arousal is a powerful drug indeed.

Every guy is different. There isn’t one answer to your question, because it depends so much on the guy’s personality, background, emotional makeup, and so on.

For some it is harmless entertainment. For others it is a crutch. (Note, I am not saying addiction – that’s a popular phrase, but I don’t believe it exists. Use of porn to excess is a symptom of a different problem, not the problem itself)

Finally, I need to have someone define what porn is. It could stretch from snuff movies to rape movies, to vanilla intercourse, to orgies and strip shows, and a thousand variations among those.

Define your terms.

@elbanditoroso Nude/Sex movies and pictures.

@Eggie You just defined a Playboy magazine from 50 years ago as porn. That is why @elbanditoroso asked for a more defined term. And you question seems limited to a hetero male viewpoint, ignoring the spectrum of porn viewers.

Porn in and of itself is not bad; like anything it is how it is used that can cause problems. It is certainly not an educational tool; it distorts “best” sex practices and how people fully engaged in their own sexuality experience sex.

There is some porn that is concerning: that which depicts violence and abuse. Yet even that depends on context and whether it is forced or consensual.

Why only men? Are you saying women don’t watch / like porn at all?

The effect porn has on men is overblown. Most of us look at it from time to time but it’s rare you will find people with an obsession for it. Frankly imagination is better and most of us say hi to our monster in much the same way as with our other bodily functions. It’s not much more pleasurable that when someone finally sneezes or has a particularly good BM. It’s the build up, anticipation and final release when with a woman that is great. Porn does a poor job of simulating that.

You seem to be concerned in the behavior of all men. That’s a big group to answer yes or no. We are all individuals and make those decisions for ourselves. Just worry about your own house and let others worry about theirs.

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@ARE_you_kidding_me “most of us say hi to our monster in much the same way as with our other bodily functions. It’s not much more pleasurable that when someone finally sneezes or has a particularly good BM.” ....seriously?

@anniereborn – sex is more pleasurable than a sneeze, at least in my book…

@anniereborn yep. Throw a woman into that mix and it changes everything

@ARE_you_kidding_me I should hope so. But I am still surprised about the quote.

I definitely think it can lead to problems. I’m not saying it always does, but I think it does more often than people might realize.

Not at all…It gets very hard for us to watch.