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Is there such a thing as ‘Love at first sight’?

Asked by nina (895points) August 7th, 2008

This question has been triggered by the question ,‘Is there such a thing as vocation?. Both these phenomea have been extensively mythologized and cultified. I personally have only experienced, interest or attraction at first sight. Would love (at first sight?) to hear from fellow-Flutherers

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robhaya's avatar

It’s more of a figure of speech when your talking about being attracted to someone or something. I think its impossible to truly to fall in love with somebody at first glance. Yes, you maybe attracted or interested at “first sight”, but falling in love, no way. You really need to get to know someone before you can truly love someone or fall in love.

syz's avatar

Lust at first sight, yes. Love is much, much too complex to occur spontaneously.

charliecompany34's avatar

it’s lust at first site. but say you walk into a crowded auditorium, find a seat, get situated and finally look up at the speaker at the podium. he or she speaks, says something eloquent, gestures a certain way, says something immediately that pulls you into their karma, then that’s different. it’s not love just yet, but it becomes love when you try to meet that person and the romance ensues…

charliecompany34's avatar

my bad: “sight.”

flameboi's avatar

Yes it does, but my sight sucks!

kristianbrodie's avatar

I think that you can definitely gauge a deep and meaningful attraction to someone the first time you see them – or at least the first time you speak to them. I think it’s cynical to suggest that that feeling is just lust. I’m pretty sure I fell in love with my girlfriend the first time I saw her.

EmpressPixie's avatar

I think you can have “I could fall in love with that person” at first sight. Similar to lust but with an emotional and logical component as well. For example, you meet someone with a t-shirt you like at a meet up for your hobby who looks great and brought something that indicates you share another hobby. You could look at that person and say, “Hey, they look amazing and we share hobbies – I could fall in love with them.” But the actual deep emotions of love wouldn’t come until later.

gailcalled's avatar

Lust or desire, certainly, but not love. The French say, “Un coup de foudre,” which means a thunderclap.

omfgTALIjustIMDu's avatar

Is there such a thing as ‘Love at first sight’?

or should I walk by again?

mzgator's avatar

I have been married to my husband for fifteen years. My mind can recall the very first time I saw him standing at my door in his firefighter uniform with the shining behind him. I looked into his eyes and there was a definite attraction, click.. Whatever… We became friends first foe a long while before even thinking of a first date. After that date, I knew it was me for him forever.

BarbieM's avatar

I fell in love with my husband the first day I met him. As soon as I looked into his eyes, I knew we were going to be together. We’ve been together 22 years now.

tinyfaery's avatar

No to love at first sight, but yes to looking at someone and knowing they were the person for you. I met, wooed, and married my wife all within 3 months of meeting her. It’s been over 7 years now, and we are still desperately in love.

I also believe in lust at first sight; sometimes you just cannot fight biology.

sndfreQ's avatar

I think love at first sight is a romantic notion that only seems real by way of hormones and emotion, insofar as one falling in love with an ideal that is personified in the encounter.

I think Chris Rock once mentioned this in his stand up, but (I’m paraphrasing): ”...when we meet/date someone for the first time, we’re not meeting the true person, we’re dating their representative.”

Somewhere between infatuation and reality, we come to know someone over time, and that’s where true love reveals itself…it’s a slow marinating process.

Some telltale moments for me: when my wife gave birth to our two sons, I realized just how much I loved her; when one of my sons was hospitalized for a burn a few years back, I realized how much I loved him. Love is definitely a life force, and isn’t necessarily instant gratification; through feeling love, we can understand ourselves and our purpose in life.

OTOH, with some new members here and their interesting posts, I often get “Lurve” at first sight!

Lovelocke's avatar

If out in public, I’ve seen many girls I found to be exceptionally striking, but I’ve never acted upon them. I see them as gems in life, like seeing a beautiful bird or a rainbow, but I’m already taken.

With her it’s love at each site, not just the first one.

Zaku's avatar

Yes, though it depends on how technical you want to get. Explanations here:

jamzzy's avatar

im sure there is but i hav not seen it.

timothykinney's avatar

I don’t believe that people have only one soul mate. But I do believe that people can recognize a soul mate on first sight. Case in point: my current girlfriend. I was extremely interested in her when we first met. True, she is ravishing, but I think I was attracted to her in other ways. The relationship progressed very quickly, but the usual signs of losing interest have not appeared. She has proven to be exactly the person I need to regulate my irregularities, to show me the beauty in life, and to remind me who I am.

I don’t think there is any benefit in wanting to find love at first sight. But there’s certainly no harm in accepting it when it happens.

hearkat's avatar


I experienced it once… the instant our eyes met, I felt that I’d known him my entire life. There isn’t a better way I can think of to describe it. I have never experienced anything like it before or since. This wasn’t lust or romanic head-over-heels infatuation. We were brought together by a support group for our kids as we were both going through divorce. We dated for a short time, but the timing in our lives was totally wrong, so it didn’t work out. We were both busy with our kids and list touch, I never told him about my experience, and I don’t know what he felt when we met.

ninjaxmarc's avatar

Lust at first sight maybe.

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