How many chances would you give to someone before labelling them based on their behavior?

I give a person two chances. If they prove unreliable or difficult through their behavior, I set boundaries for any future encounters. If they continue to be a problem, I limit contact to polite pleasantries only. Finally, if they prove impossible to deal with, I sever all contact.

I am more lenient with family members, but I still have boundaries. I’m quite good at setting them. I learned in adulthood. Nothing in my formative years enabled me to be good at taking care of myself. I matured after I grew up.

One.

One. “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”

I think we are always making judgements, first time or not. How can you avoid it? You might not regard said judgement as definitive, and your opinion is refined or altered through further encounters.

Pretty much exactly what @Hawaii_Jake said. I have the luxury of being less tolerant now that I am retired, but there are still people I must interact with in business. I can’t cut everybody off.

I think continuing to interact with people who rub you the wrong way damages you over time and is the source of a lot of neuroses. We are forced to put up with some terrible people throughout our lives in order to maintain our jobs, raise families, and just get along. It’ a wonder to me that by the time we are 50 most of us don’t show signs of severe PTSD and the whole ball of wax that goes with it.

Or maybe we do, but it is so normal nobody comments on it.

Test.

Depends. Forgetting my child at 7/11 is different from forgetting to buy me a bag of Doritos at the same 7/11.

I understand people having a bad day or having to learn something, but if it isn’t those two things, I’m not very tolerant. As my old boss would say, I don’t suffer fools well.

People deserve several chances but it greatly depends on the situation

It depends on what it is that they’re doing. I may or may not be judgemental depending on what they do and how it affects me.

Usually, two. It depends on how negative the behavior is. If they are thieves or start a physical fight it’s probably over right off the bat. Anything else I can try to excuse as a bad day or bad judgement in the moment.