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[NSFW?] Is sexual orientation necessarily 100% one way or 50-50 bisexual?

Asked by Brian1946 (22532points) 1 month ago

For example: can one be 20% attracted to women and 80% attracted to men?

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Mariah's avatar

It’s not discrete. There is a scale called the Kinsey scale that shows this.

Brian1946's avatar

I think for some it’s discrete, but it isn’t for me.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

As @Mariah said, it’s a scale. You could also think of it as a spectrum. It’s possible to be anywhere on the spectrum from exclusively heterosexual to exclusively homosexual.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Sexuality is such a subtle thing I don’t see how it could be discrete.

Cruiser's avatar

I view sexually orientation and sexual attraction very different “species”. Because I am 100% secure in my sexual orientation towards women only does not mean I am automatically sexually attracted to any woman. The percent there on an sexual attraction is “spectrum” as some have intoned here and the women I am 100% attracted to is actually quite small.

ucme's avatar

I gravitate to the place from whence I came 100%
Also, I learned something new, you lot spell discreet wrong too :D

Mariah's avatar

Discrete == granular. Discreet == modest.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Discrete = one or the other

BellaB's avatar

I think everyone has a spot somewhere on the scale/spectrum. If they’re comfortable with that spot / do something about it is something different.

I think people’s location on the scale can vary over their lifetimes.

ucme's avatar

Hey I knew that already…no really

Brian1946's avatar

@BellaB

“I think people’s location on the scale can vary over their lifetimes.”

I agree because I’m empirical proof of that.

Mind changed when I was a sexagenarian.

LornaLove's avatar

I’ve been told by a good source that sexuality is fluid. It can move along a continuum as per our needs. (If we are bisexual then more so). So, for e.g if I need some nurturing etc., I might be more attracted to females around a certain time. (Although I must say, that sounds gender specific so I am not sure if that really works, but the brain is just wired that way).

I’m bisexual, at times I am much more attracted to males then at other times more to females. I’m not talking about daily or weekly but decades can go by. I am very committed to who I am with too. So, at the moment I am not really attracted to anyone.

dappled_leaves's avatar

Being bisexual is not about being 50% attracted to men and 50% attracted to women. It’s also not about being 50% gay and 50% straight.

It just means that you are attracted to people irrespective of whether they are male or female. There’s a larger pool of potential partners to choose from. And no, you may not feel an equal attraction to each gender.

So, if you find that you are 20% attracted to women and 80% attracted to men (although I’m guessing you mean that your partner choices end up being 20% women and 80% men), you are still bisexual. There isn’t a different word for it.

Coloma's avatar

I dunno, obviously there are many ways to swing but I am a solidly heterosexual female. I had one girl on girl fling once, didn’t do much for me and a threesome once as well, ditto. I certainly admire beautiful human forms of all genders but I want a real erect penis and I will definitely tell you where to put it. haha

Brian1946's avatar

@dappled_leaves

“So, if you find that you are 20% attracted to women and 80% attracted to men (although I’m guessing you mean that your partner choices end up being 20% women and 80% men)....”

That was just an example and it doesn’t apply to me.

In real life I think I’m heterosexual, but I have had fantasies involving beings with mixed anatomical features.

dappled_leaves's avatar

@Brian1946 “That was just an example and it doesn’t apply to me.”

Answer still stands, my dude. :)

DominicY's avatar

Sexuality is fluid for some, but it isn’t fluid for others. In general I don’t like making an absolute statement. Clearly the idea that you’re either 100% homo/heterosexual or 50–50 bisexual is false, as there are plenty with a fluid sexuality. At the same time, however, there are some people who are 100% or 50–50 and we shouldn’t deny they exist by saying “sexuality is fluid”.

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