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What kinds of things did the men discuss that allowed this person to understand the difference in sexuality between men and women?

Asked by Dutchess_III (42454points) March 11th, 2017

A jelly shared a very interesting video of a woman who dressed and acted like a man for 18 months.

One of the things she realized is that “a women’s sexuality is mental. Men’s is a bodily function and they have to have it.”

That sounds true to me, but I never thought of it in terms like that before.

What kinds of things do men discuss among themselves (thinking she was a man) for her to come to that understanding?

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ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

This woman still does not really get what being a guy is like. I have seen this before and while I like the premise it makes men out to be like wild animals under study. It does outline that women are just as clueless about men as men are about women.

Zissou's avatar

Read her book. It’s interesting.

Grown straight men don’t actually talk that much about sex, in my experience.

LuckyGuy's avatar

^ Yep! I’m not in junior high school any more. I stopped talking about it with other guys decades ago.
Actually, the only time I discuss sex is when it is related to prostate cancer and various treatments. It is just not a normal topic of discussion with other guys.

Darth_Algar's avatar

Dressing like a man and acting how you think men act like does not mean that you have any more of an understanding than you did before.

Cruiser's avatar

Only a real male person will stop bragging about sexual conquests once they actually lose their viginity.

Dutchess_III's avatar

LOL @Cruiser!

Thanks you guys.

Zissou's avatar

In fairness, she didn’t just wander around in male drag. She joined a bowling league and became close friends with a couple of her teammates. She also spent some time in a monastery. I think the statement in question may have come from her visit to a strip club with her teammates.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Yes, I’m glad you made that point. Her comments did come in conjunction with having gone to a strip club.
I’m glad my husband has no desire to go to places like that.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Most guys don’t unless it’s for something like a bachelor party.

Dutchess_III's avatar

They’re awfully popular and common @ARE_you_kidding_me.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Not really, touristy areas perhaps. My town which is one of the largest in Tennessee has like two and you almost never see more than a handfull of cars there. The guys who frequent them are rather pathetic to be honest. Not the types who have any chance of female contact whatsoever outside of paying for a lapdance.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I can only imagine!

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Most normal guys who have been have gone with groups of friends or coworkers and it’s more about bonding with each other than seeing titties. That’s all rather innocent, it’s the guys that go alone on a wed night I was referring to.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Ick!!!
It’s interesting that when she started her journey someone told her “You just have to go to a strip club.” It’s too bad that all men are brushed with that stereotype.

Darth_Algar's avatar

My wife and I have gone to strip clubs on occasion. This notion that it’s only about male bonding or desperate losers who otherwise can’t get a woman to give them the time of day is asinine.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Not really, I mean yeah there are exceptions but frankly most people and especially couples are just not that secure and comfortable with doing so. I’m also guessing the ones you went to were nice and clean. The few I have been drug to were not with one notable exception.

Darth_Algar's avatar

Ah right, I forgot that I’m on Fluther, where personal anecdote = fact.

Dutchess_III's avatar

All the ones I’ve seen (driven past) looked like dumps with only a handful of cars in the lot.

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